Okay.Me and my best friend are now trying the dating scene.Cause we both figured that we have the same feelings for one another.Well last night he called like usual(calls once in the morning and after he gets off work), we got talking and he wanted to know why I'm so closed off why I act like a total bit*h sometimes.And get mad over stupid stuff.Well I said that I'm scared.I think that I don't need any help from anybody or a support system other than my family.He said "Well if you don't trust me then this isn't gonna work".I told him I did I'm just scared that I'm gonna hurt him so my first instict is to push anyone that wants to help me or be my support system away.Especially guys.Well he said that he wants to try and work things out that he has been open but he needs the same from me.So he called this morning and asked if I had made up my mind.I said ya that I wanted to try and work things out too! I have figured something out though.The only way I won't push him away is to tell....
2006-12-24 09:31:46 · 5 answers · asked by Gretchen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only way I know how to not push him away is to tell him something that no one knows.Every one knows that my mom and dad are divorced and I don't ever see my dad.But I there's one thing no one knows and I feel like that if I'm gonna be open I need for once to let someone in.And I'm just scared that he is gonna laugh at me or tell me I'm crazy.But I also know him well enough to know that what I'm holding back is something he wants to know.I just don't want to get hurt again like I did in my past or hurt him.What do I do?I care for him so much.I don't want to lose my boyfriend.His my best friend.I feel I can tell him anything and he will understand.I trust him more then anyone! (Sniffles and Cries)
2006-12-24 09:36:30 · update #1
Do not do anything you feel pressured to do. Sometimes things work out sometimes they don't. Do not compromise yourself to make something work. If he's really meant for you then he will respect your privacy with things sometimes. Ask him to take you slow, that you really like him but this is new and hard for you- that's the best thing he can do for you both and it will teach you trust and find acceptance in him.
2006-12-24 09:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by littledreamergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him the truth, but if u know its gonna hurt him, then dont tell him. this happened 2 me back in 2000. my boyfriend is also my best friend. he knows things that no 1 else knows, including my own mom. even if something i have 2 tell him, might hurt him. i tell him that i have something i need 2 say. but, it might hurt him and i dont want 2 do that because i love him more then anything. i let him decide if he wants to hear it or not. we have been together for almost 7 yrs....need more help email me
2006-12-24 09:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by thatsspoiledangel2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this happens to alot of people. we push away the ones we love because we are afraid to hurt them. sometimes the people we hurt the worst are the ones we love. but we shouldnt let the fear of hurting them keep us from loving them. try out this relationship take it easy and dont make rash dicisions when you are mad, this is when we really hurt them!
2006-12-24 09:39:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth always works the best, Go ahead and tell him you are pregnant, he will be overjoyed. He will be a little scared also, but will comfort you. And it will make a great Christmas present for him to know that...................Merry Christmas, and congratulations on the little one to be !
2006-12-24 09:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by Speedbuggy43 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be wiser to wait a little before I started revealing such confidences. Just a little bit.
2006-12-24 09:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋