....should you wait to breakup with someone? We've been together for 6.5yrs, living together for 2. Ongoing issues that never get resolved and growing dissatisfaction and resentment on my part. We met when I was 19 and he was 24. He is content to stay in the relationship but I'm feeling more and more like I need to get away. We don't even sleep in the same bed anymore (haven't for over 1.5yrs)
2006-12-24 09:17:52 · 12 answers · asked by ArrestingDistraction 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're very thoughtful in keeping this conversation away from the holidays. I did the same when I had the ' talk ' with my ex-husband that I felt we shouldn't be married any more. My advise is to wait till about three weeks into the New Year. But be careful to stay clear of upcoming Valentines Day . . . you'd have the same problem then also. If he asks how long have you felt this way, and he does the 'math' and discovers you felt this over the Christmas holiday season, kindly express to him your intent not wanting to put a damper on the holiday season (Christmas, New Years). Be careful not to be overly affectionate or endearing towards him during the remainder of the holiday season as that would cause more hurt and confusion when you do have the 'talk' with him. Maybe even be ' sick ' on new years eve so you don't have to share the emotions of that night with him. I wish you well with this.
2006-12-24 09:24:02 · answer #1 · answered by onelight 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck - I don't even see that you need to wait until after the holidays. But since you seem very considerate, I would wait until late January or early February.
That gets the holidays behind you both, and both will be returning to whatever 'normal' patterns you have by then.
Then you get everything in order for moving out, find a new place, and gently break it to them...
Its a really hard decision, I know, I've been through pretty much the same thing twice in my life...
I wish you all the best.
-dh
2006-12-24 09:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would do it between Christmas and new years. Not after the season, if things are as stagnate as they appear that would make for a very awkward New Years kiss. Be adult about it and explain how you feel, and remember no matter what feelings will be hurt, you can't avoid it. However, once it's done and resolved you both can go on to happier lives.
2006-12-24 09:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by JIm B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
some companies close between X-mas and New Years, and a brilliant form of human beings take that week off regardless of if their company is open so that is not a brilliant time to do employer. as quickly as New Years is over, then that is returned to artwork as primary. January 5 could be advantageous.
2016-10-28 07:33:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 day
2006-12-24 09:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Haven't slept in the same bed for the past 1.5 years??? You should of broken up 1.5 years ago then.
2006-12-24 09:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by moodrojam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y wait till after the holiuday.
cuz u dont want to hv a bad christmas
break up wiyt him and dont worre it will all work out
2006-12-24 09:20:49 · answer #7 · answered by natrual flirt 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ASAP. Don't drag it out any longer. Holiday season or no holiday season...doesn't matter. The break up will be hard no matter what day you do it on.
2006-12-24 09:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by redneckgardendiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as u feel, i have been dumped on xmas eve b4 so, well done you for waiting. Hope everything goes smoothly!!!
2006-12-24 09:20:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do it right after new year.
2006-12-24 09:26:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋