My hunny and I are getting married on january first. We have a great relationship and everything has been fantastic ... do you feel different after you are married .. is it any different than being a dating couple?... just with a piece of paper saying you are legaly tied to one another?
2006-12-24 09:05:45 · 19 answers · asked by eye_candy762001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Please be prepared for change and let no change allow your love and commitment to fade. There are emotional phases through which you two will pass. There are difficult times for which you must brace and handle together supportively and lovingly. There will, later, seem to be a time of getting complacent and comfortable; please know that your effort towards showing your love in those times will keep the two of you close. Make time for each other, even when life seems very busy, which is how it will feel when children enter the picture.
Please pick up the book "The Five Love Languages" by Dr. Gary Chapman. This book is crucial towards understanding how to express love to each other. You could do something you consider very loving, but it may not be his primary love language. He could think that your effort is no big deal and you will be disappointed. When one of you speaks the other's primary love language, even if it is not your primary language, then love abounds.
This book will make a major difference in your marriage.
2006-12-24 09:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by Bob T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After getting married the first year you will be so happy and excited about being married. Understand now that you have to take the bitter with the sweet. Every day is not going to be a walk in the park. Marriage is a give and take. You may have to make some scarifies but compromise is the key and you gotta know when to agree to disagree. Sometimes you will have to deal with things that you other wise wouldn't but it's cool just remember til death do you part, for better or worst . smart decision and stupid ones rich or poor. it's just another day in life You will be fine if you love this man it will work out Merry Christmas! Good luck and Congratulations! God bless!
2006-12-24 17:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by sun4u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is different being married than being a dating couple. Being married is more than a piece a paper. The wedding makes you realize how beautiful a life is going to be with this person. And who says you can't date your spouse. Smile... That is the fun part too. For better or worse, well there have been plenty of both over the years. But I too, am getting married again but this time for the second time around to the same guy. We will be celebrating our 30th and he asked me to marry him,,again. Smile So my advice is keep communication open, learn to forgive and love this person with all your heart. Merry Christmas and Congratulations.
2006-12-24 17:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's no good answer to this question - it differs for everyone but your heart probably won't be on fire like it is now but there are other things that take place of that - like trust, comfort, etc.
Just don't get too comfortable - relating to someone in marriage ideally should be no different than when you were dating. Do NOT let yourselves go and get fat or distant. Do not let your families get too involved with your day-to-day lives. Do NOT stop dating - find new ways to tell each other how much you care. And above all else - COMMUNICATE!
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-12-24 17:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by derek985 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally after marriage things will be different especially now that two of you will be living under one roof. Disagreements will surface and are avoidable. In simple terms; honeymood days are over! Try to be patient, understanding, tolerant and demonstrate a give-and-take attitude then you'll be alright. Men usually tend to take things for granted for there may be disappointments but then this is where you practice all your virtues. Best wishes!
2006-12-24 17:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is totally different - that little piece of paper some people are so scared of, is actually very freeing and wonderful. You are totally committed to one another, and are totally able to let yourself go, knowing that the other one will always be there for you. It is unlike dating, or living together - it's a sense of security, of structure, of constancy, that you can count on.
2006-12-25 09:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm still techincally in the honeymoon period but from somone who's been married 1 year and three months, it only gets better. Each day is just amazing with him. Marriage is really something you put effort towards and I am 100% dedicated to doing so.
2006-12-24 18:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends.. but mostly u feel more responsibility 4 the other person once ur married. Some bad couples take their partner 4 grated once they're married. But I don't think that'll happen 2 u!, so don't worry!. Maybe u'll be happier!.
Wish u the best!.
merry christmas, good luck and God bless!.
2006-12-24 17:08:38 · answer #8 · answered by Golden 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u r a girl and do not plan to have childred, then don't get married! married life sucks. What good married we see in everyday life only have 2 reason : 1. They are accepting their sucker fate and just enjoy it since they can't fight with it. 2. They haven't found out the bitterness of married life YET but they will sooner or later. Enjoy your good fun life now. save yourself a lot of trouble in paper work.
2006-12-24 21:32:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
God established marriage to join men and women--and I've known daating couples who after they get married, have this wonderful smile on their face for the first couple of months at least. Result of s*x? Don't ask me---I think marriage is wonderful, though.
2006-12-24 17:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by levihambrick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋