Rejection really hurts......anyone had a major rejection and would like to share their coping method?

Answer 1

another persons opinion of u doesn't define who u are, just their opinion. when someone rejects u, theres someone else around the corner that will not reject u. rejection is just part of life, doesn't mean there is anything wrong with u.

Answer 2

Rejection hits below the belt. The best way to handle it is to make a mental note of all your positive traits. Then realize that if that person who rejected you cannot see what a cool cat you are, then it is THEIR LOSS and you are BETTER OFF without them. Pull yourself up by your boot straps and know this "You are not a gold coin - If you were, only then every single person would love you!"
You are much more than a cold piece of gold. Your treasure is within and NO ONE can take that away from you. So chin up and go get'm tiger!

Answer 3

yep, it's a bereavement, and should be dealt with as such.

The first step is accepting you can't have what you want, once this is done, the second step is to try and stop thinking about it, mulling over the 'what if's' and the 'if only I had......'s'

Then, you will be sad, but that's natural, and then you get over it.

Anger and frustration and misery are all part of the process, enbrace them, cry, shout, scream, sing, dance.........whatever you need to do........no grief lasts forever, so eventually these feelings will slow down, and then stop altogether.

Then you will always have the memory of the pain.........but that's all it will be.

Best thing.........just let it happen, you can't stop or help how you feel, be sad, get drunk, get angry.....just keep your self respect and you will get through it. This time next year, you won't even be able to remember just how bad you feel right now......

Good luck.

Answer 4

Pick up a hobby, if you don't have one. Hang out with friends as well. Do something that makes you happy. Then with time, you'll move on. It hurts in the beginning, but if you keep yourself a little busy, and your mind off of the rejection, you're good to go.

Answer 5

Well... yea I had a rejection, and yea it really hurt [still does]. But the best way to cope with it is to either to find yourself another mate, or just find a way to forget about her. If you do, I recomend music. Good for the soul. Or the find another thing that puts your mind at ease.

Answer 6

I once went on a job interview I was completely qualified for, experienced, and very confident.

The man interviewing me basically didn't like my previous jobs I had, even though my present job of 4 years is exactly what this position was for except this interview was with benefits and my present job has none.

So he told me how he couldn't understand my wanted this job. No matter how much I explained myself, he didn't hire me. I was so disappointed that I got up left!

How did I cope, It could be worse, Life goes on, Everything happens for a reason, and this too shall pass.

Answer 7

A COPING METHOD FOR ME MAY NOT HELP U SO LET ME GIVE U AN OPEN METHOD

JUST UNDERSTAND THE TRUTH IN
EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON AND THAT WHATEVER THE REJECTION WAS U WILL BENIFIT FROM
I KNOW U ARE THINKING HOW??
WELL U ARE GAINING STRENGTH RIGHT NOW GROWING UP AND MAY EVEN NEED TO HELP SOMEONE ELSE THROUGH THIS SAME THING U ARE SEEKING ADVICE ON

IF ITS MEANT TO BE IT WILL BE IT MAY NOT BE RIGHT NOW BUT WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT IT WILL

GOD HAS HIS PLANS AND WHEN HE READY TO BLESS U
WHETHER THIS IS A JOB, A PERSON ,A FAMILY MEMEBER WHATEVER ,HE'LL DO IT
AND ALL THATS HURT U OR REJECTED U WILL FALL ONLY TO BETTER U AND MAKE U STRONGER

SOMETIMES U HAVE TO LEARN TO FIGHT AND JUST WAIT FOR WHATS YOURS

IF GOD DIDNT ALLOW WHATEVER THIS IS TO COME THROUGH GUESS WHAT HE HAS SOMETHING BETTER IN STORE FOR U
AND YEA IT HURTS BUT U CAN ALWAYS TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT ANYTIME HE'S ALWAYS THERE LISTENING
AND I KNOW ITS HARD TO STAY POSITIVE WHE GOING THROUGH ANYTHING OF THIS SORT BUT THERE IS WORSE OUT THERE

SO JUST UNDERSTAND THAT U HAVE BEEN SET UP TO BE BLESSED

DONT SIT AND ASK WHY ME
JUST ACCEPT IT
YOUR BLESSING IS COMING SOON
JUST BELEIVE
STAY POSITIVE AND WAIT

GOOD LUCK I HOPE THIS HELPED

AND NO IM NOT REIGNING MY JESUS ON U IM JUST TELLING U FROM EXPERIENCE..

YOULL BE FINE U HAVE TO GO THROUGH SOMETHING TO GAIN STRENGTH FROM IT AND APPRECIATE BUT ALSO BEFORE ANY OF THAT MESS UNDERSTAND WHO IS IN COMPLETE CONTROL OF ALL YOUR DESTINY AND THATS GOD

U HAVE A NICE DAY AND A MARRY CHRISTMAS GIRL/BOY I KNOW I WILL

Answer 8

Denied a promotion I was sure i was going to get.
Coping method would be distraction, don't waste your time on it.

or... Pseudo-Revenge.
Bash them anonymously on the internet. But be vague enough, so they it can't be traced to you. But make sure that they persons or people responisble see it and read it.

If this is an ex- don't bother. .

Answer 9

yeah I get myself into adult and seperate the first feeling of rejection (my father leaving), then objectively deal with feelings i have this time. Rejection is a hard one it's gut wrenching and powerful, but it is also ok to be rejected and it should have no effect on how you value your own self worth. xxxx

Answer 10

At first I got roaring drunk, then, after I got bailed out, I took a long look at myself in the mirror. What I saw shocked me into realizing I was better off in the long run. I got cleaned up, put on a suit and went out to party.