few months bak i met a gal from US online..n today she loves me like (more than herself),even ready to quit her country for me,in case m not able to make to US...I KNOW its not possible to spend life wid her,how to tell her that "our frndship which converted to online love cannot end up in marriage"..i know she will b badly hurt,bt i need to say soo so that she doest just waits for me n ruin her life...how to break up??i m fixed,thinkin its solution...
2006-12-24 08:11:44 · 23 answers · asked by Generoushous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if ya can suggest me personally,IM me..i am on. n i plan to tell her that i wana breakup after xmas,so that she celebrates festival of joys joyfully!!...
2006-12-24 08:21:33 · update #1
tell her that right now it's a little more important for her to focus on herself than on you...you're a big boy...you can handle yourself...until she gets her life in control...tell her you guys can't keep having this relationship and you're doing this only because you care about her well being
2006-12-24 08:16:07 · answer #1 · answered by Charishma S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to tell her, there is no easy way to break up with a person.You shouldnt have lead her on to believe that there could be something more then an online friendship. You obiviously did or she wouldnt be willing to up and leave for you.
What makes you think that you can not end up marrying her? You say online love, meaning you cant love her outside of the internet, which is wrong. She is the same girl outside of the internet as on the internet. If you love her you will want to be with her and you will find a way to spend life with her. At the sametime if you love her and know things wont work out between you two then yes, let her go. But how can you know if things wont work between you two outside internet if you havent tried it.
Where theres a will theres a way! Good luck
2006-12-24 08:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by Chunkerbutt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think that she may not be the right one for you or that you two cannot get married? Of course, I don't think you should continue like this (i.e., online without having seen each other physically). I strongly suggest you first somehow find a way to meet her, and if you don't like her in person or she doesnt like you in person, then definitely, quit the relationship. But as for a general break up, you should NEVER EVER, EVVVVER fear hurting the girl's feelings!!!!!!!!! Be strong, be a gentleman, come on! Do it in the best manner possible, avoiding to hurt her feelings, and letting her know that you have no desire to hurt her in any way, but make sure you express to her that you don't think you two belong together and should continue. Tell her that you do not feel satisfied (never go for the physical features, by the way! NEVER!) when with her, and that you're looking for something else in a girl.... maybe for her to be more supportive and more loving......... As for the online girl you're with... I still suggest you first meet with her in person and then see how things go from there. Best of luck!
2006-12-24 08:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by ♡♥ sHaNu ♥♡ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... WAIT until after the Christmas Holidays. She deserves that. Next, be up front. Don't lie to her or beat around the bush. JUST TELL HER the truth and nothing but the truth. Let her know that you enjoy online chats but that is all there will be to it. Have a great Christmas and a Happy New Year!
Eds
2006-12-24 08:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by Eds 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what situation you’re stuck into, because I have experienced the same problem and it was really painful. I did every thing to break up without causing any pain to her, but it didn’t work, I started not to answering her phone calls, and if she insisted I used to find an excuse and hang out, I tried to tell her that there is no commitment and even if there was I didn’t want to marry for the next ten years, but nothing worked, finally I appealed help to all of my close friends that knew my situation and one of them gave me a very good advice, she told me, if I wanted to cut your head off, did you wanted it to be by paper or knife?
2006-12-24 09:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer her emails right away...wait a day or two and then tell her how busy you are. Start inventing new interests and friends. Don't talk about other girls tho.
Just drift away and if she asks you point blank if you love her. tell her you have some personal issues you need to work out before actually hooking up with anyone. Play up your negative points.
2006-12-24 08:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by Raven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to hurt her but not breaking up with her and then having her come to your country and then have her heartbroken is way worse than breaking up with now.Seriously you are sending her the wrong message.Anyways you can't just not break up with someone just because you don't want to hurt them.It is part of life,and eventually she will get over it.But she deserves better than to come to another country with a guy who doesn't love her.Good luck!!!!
2006-12-24 08:16:30 · answer #7 · answered by sum1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a bit sudden to be declaring love for you anyway and be willing to move countries,she was probably really insecure before you met her,that's normally the way they act.I would be totally honest-as awful as you feel you don't want her thinking there is a chance for you 2,the longer it goes on the worse she will get.good luck
2006-12-24 08:16:24 · answer #8 · answered by NATALIE W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you truly don't wanna hurt her? Like you SAY its all on line. If she do not know where you live. just say what you need to tell her. Don't tell her lie. Say what are your feeling about your relation with her. It will hurt her if she truly love you. That will make her think about love someone on the on line. Love is a big word to say to someone. You must know that person to deeply to fall in love. LOVE IS A FEELING , NOT WORD TO PLAY AROUND. LOVE YOUR SELF FIRST, BEFORE YOU CAN GIVE SOMEONE YOUR LOVE.
2006-12-24 08:52:13 · answer #9 · answered by boricua1970maileen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok yall are dating over the internet??? ok and she is willing to move over to where you are.. leave her family and friends and everything??? dude no matter what you do her heart is going to be broken.. it doesnt matter what you say or do.. its still going to hurt her.. but i do think that you need to let her know how you feel before she packs everything up and comes over seas for a man that doesnt even want to be with her like that anymore..
2006-12-24 08:18:45 · answer #10 · answered by URKA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋