I have had a bad relationship with my family members this past year. my hubby just went back overseas for 8more months and I am looking for comfort but worried that i will get used again, like i always do when i go to visit the family.
Would you go, just because its christmas?
2006-12-24 07:37:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if i go, i have a 5hr drive with my 4yr old child , so we cant just stay for a hour or so, and one wants me to stay so I can babysit for them, the others want me to go shopping with them,I HATE rushing around on holidays, i want to sit and relax!!!
2006-12-24 07:43:46 · update #1
It's really up to you, but if you do go, set up some rules. Tell them you won't babysit for them, unless it's something YOU want to do. Also, if you don't want to go shopping, tell them. If they insist, you could always set a time limit for the shopping. You could tell them its a mini vacation for you and you just want to enjoy their company and relax. Don't let them make you do things you won't enjoy doing or you just don't want to do.
Merry Christmas!
2006-12-24 08:27:53 · answer #1 · answered by angeldiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the possibility of what may happen, so the question is "are you strong enough to handle being hurt?" It may turn out to be a lovely visit, but only you know if you can take it. Only go if you believe you are strong enough to get through the worst, and then if it turns out great you will feel wonderful.
Family is important, and I hope that you are able to mend these relationships, but you have a husband that loves you, you do not have to put yourself into any situation you don't feel comfortable with just because of holiday traditions.
Love yourself and then decide if you are ready to go home.
2006-12-24 07:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by AMBER_LYNN_13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas is supposed to be a joyous occasion. If you feel uncomfortable or unhappy around your family then I say don't go, give them a call instead and wish them a merry Christmas. I don't choose to be around my siblings but I do choose to be around my family which are now my children and etc. My siblings are miserable, unhappy, complaining, arguing, just plain awful to be around at any time. Mostly they are users and I choose not to be around those type of people Christmas or not. So it is definitely a personal choice and how you feel about family relationships. Once you make the decision be consistent in the choice because there are always consequences to all the choices we make and if you can live with the consequence then make the choice.
2006-12-24 08:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by Yarborough51 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would go, just to please God becuase remember God doesn't like those who break ties with family members. However, you can only TRY and break that wall between you and your fam members; if it doesn't work, no need to spend your life worrying about it! God knows you tried, and that's all that matters. This is the season to be jolly, so first call them and wish them well. If they receive your call pleasantly, then good; you should tell them you wanna come over. If they don't receive your call pleasantly, no need to waste your time on them.
I pray that things go well for you and your relatives! Best of luck!
2006-12-24 07:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by ♡♥ sHaNu ♥♡ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what will make you happy. i'm going through almost the same thing. i don't get along with my family members either and pllan to call them for christmas instead of putting my self in a position that i don't want to be in. if you have friends spend the holiday with them. you won't be alone and will probably be in much better company. much luck and merry xmas.
2006-12-24 07:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by NoDeal21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We oftentimes see his relatives till now as they stay one hundred's miles away, christmas day on our very own, boxing day my relatives. My pal has a reliable stystem as there are 3 daughters and all very close so as that they substitute each christmas with christmas day at one domicile and boxing day at anothers and each 12 months one in each of them is loose from cooking and unique. you may discover what works for you maximum suitable of all
2016-10-18 23:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by mctaggart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go, but stand up for yourself. Don't let your family use you...just because you are related doesn't give them the right to take advantage of you. Stand up for yourself without being rude. Without details thats really all I can offer you.
besides, there is probably someone in your family who can offer you comfort and support, they can't all be bad.
2006-12-24 07:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would go. I would put all thoughs things behind me and remember that they are my family. That there will be bad times but i cant let those bad times stop me from loving and caring about my family. That deep down i know i love them and that they love me to. Also it would make you feel better and u would not regret it. Also your family would know that you really care and you thought before you act. HAPPY HOLIDAYS
2006-12-24 07:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not going to any of my familys for christmas this year, if you dont feel comfortable going then dont go. me and my wife are staying home this year because my side of the family i just dont like going to, they play favorites and her side me and my wife has had a huge fall out and arguements with this past year and even the past few days...so do what makes you feel comfortable...good luck with your decision
2006-12-24 07:42:47 · answer #9 · answered by bshelby2121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'm going after work. I have 5 more hours to go! Never know if you'll see the person again because one doesn't know the future.
2006-12-24 07:46:30 · answer #10 · answered by houstonsoutheast 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋