is it true that u never forget your 1st love?

Question

i mean my 1st love was wen i was 17 i dnt know how it hapened i just fell head over heels for this guy and it all ended before it even started he was a muslim and his parents arranged his maraige and he had to go we loved each other but he knew i wud be hurt so he never let it grow into a proper relationship and .....it ended on a bitter note..i still dnt get it did he ever love me or he didnt but anyways the thing is i dnt hate him my family and friends do i dnt have any hatred for him why shud i ...i mean if i meet him today i can be friends with him i have a boyfriend who i am engaged to and would want them to meet but my guy feels he is a jurk and still have soft corner for him coz he is my first love

i havent seen him in last 3yrs he is settled abroad we havent even spoken on phone or anything its just that i dont hate him where as people around me feel that i should bcoz of whatever happened

Answer 1

no

Answer 2

Unknow is always a mystery, its a relationship that was not explored. And being the first feeling of love it can remain within you. Sometimes strength is in letting go of things and not holding it. By the information provided, looks like he really never loved you, because he does not know what love is. He could put you aside and move on in his life. Why spoil a good engagement, what message are you giving your fiance, in giving your "first love" so much importance.....you have a man who is standing by your and is fully committed.
YOur first love is a mamas boy, even if your were married to him, you would still be his second, and his mother would be in control of him, is this what you want?

Answer 3

It is all in the mind. If you keep visiting (in mind) the episodes of your past you cannot ever forget them. Do you remember why we do revision while studying? It is important for you to forget that and don't even mention to any one ever after. The disclosure of past is something guys like to refer every now and then and get a reason to fight and hurt you. There is no reason to hate any one on this Earth. Love is the only flavour we should spread around us. The love does not mean lust. You love your parents, brothers, sister, friends, etc. The guy (your old B/F) loved and did not wanted to hurt you and hence he just left you with out taking your undue advantage. Please keep his promise as true and do not get hurt any more. Forget him and do not think of him in from today onwards. It will create a hell in your life if you keep going to that old memories. Not only that you are also not giving enough importance to your current love life and your b/f.
God Bless You.

Answer 4

if a person is deeply involved first time with other person in one of, from the following three (1)mentally (2)physically (3) emotionally or with all the mention three and they together engaged in love for a quite long period or their relation continue till they separated for any reason so, that is called true and first love which cannot be forget ten for entire life. In your case that guy is not your first love ,it was just an infatuation so please don't bother about him, concentrate on your present boyfriend to whom you are engaged because after some time if you are serious with him with any of the above mention three then he will be your true and first love ,dear friend i am explaining you in short and i hope you are intelligent enough to understand this. thank you, by truly an STRANGER FRIEND.

Answer 5

Yes it is true that you can never ever forget your first love. Especially for females it is very very difficult. But it is not correct also to try and bring both these men..i mean your ex-friend and your future husband..together to be friends. It is always dangerous as at any point of time if your hubby comes to know about your past..be it a past also..there are all the possibilities that your life will become miserable. And I am betting you that in that killing point of your time in life..your muslim friend will definetely take back himself as afterall he has to be 'safe' at home also with his wife!!!!. You loved him in the past fine..but my suggestion is cut off all the contacts with him..for your own beneift in future.

Answer 6

awww, I still have a soft corner for my first love, even if he is a jerk sometimes

talk to your boyfriend to at least meet up with this guy once in a while, it's good to keep in touch

but you need to be careful because the feelings you have for your ex may be an illusion. you may think you could have had a better relationship with him, but things didn't work out that way, you need to move on.

Answer 7

i think of this actual!!! i grew to become into in a courting for 3 years ( my previous flame ) and approximately 5months in the past he split up with me and that i nonetheless cry popular approximately it and sense like i cant pass on without him! In time im constructive issues gets much less complicated yet i know that i will by no skill forget approximately him and that he will constantly have some place in my heart because of the fact the time we shared at the same time grew to become into amazin ( even however there grew to become into alot of arguments )

Answer 8

There will always be the exceptional to the rule but by and large we cannot forget our first love. Wishing you and your family, “A Merry Christmas & A Happy New Year.”

Answer 9

Dont get confused. All men are possesive, Forget about your first love, It was only childish. Grow and mature into a good companion for your new man

Answer 10

You will never forget you first love or anyone else you've been with. Just don't look at him as the one that got away and don't base every man after him to him. Be happy with your fiance' and just savior the memories, good or bad. Congrats and good luck.

Answer 11

Sexual attraction is always in the root of love affairs, which was also in bi-tween you too. Remember love dies, but sex lasts for ever. Ayurveda says like this. Do not try to overcome nature. Be cool and not to live in dreamland. It was sexual relationship, but not a love. If still you stands for it, then you are a fool.