Im In Love With A Boy Thats Younger Than Me!!?

Question

Ok this is whats going on, i met him a while ago and developed a huge crush on him, i didnt think we could ever date or anything but one night he told me that he fell in love with me, i felt the same way, its soo undescribable(sp?) anwyays i just turned 15 and hes 13 he's turning 14 in a few days. Everyone who's older then me tell me no your not in love and i shouldnt be thinking about any of that and i dont know what love is. Thing is i am i do and i want to, we wnat to get married, we would do it now but we know thats something were too yuong for right now, we are always talking baout our future and i would do anything for him and its the same for him, i would die for him. but no one seems to understand that im not to young and i want to marry him and everything like that. i know this isnt really a question but i geuss i'd just like some opinions

wow ok some of you people need to calm down... im not going to drop out of school or anything im good at school and educationis one of my top priorities. and the person who said this is why the pregnency rate is so high, needs to sit in a corner and calm down, its not saying i love you that gets people pregent its irrespinsible teens who dont know sh*t about anything, i know alot and i will not be forced into sex im not retarted like someof the whores of today

Answer 1

First, I understand your feelings are intense and real. I don't doubt that you love this guy very much. I certainly sounds like you do.

While I don't think you are too young to know your own mind, I think you are a little young to be considering marriage.
I assume that neither of you has finished high school, and both of you probably still live with your parents. I can tell you it helps to have your life in a stable place, financially and emotionally, before you ever consider marriage. Having life experience and being able to support yourself is necessary for any marriage to be successful. This also applies to living together.

My advice to you would be to finish your education. High school at least. College can be important to your development as well, and getting your degree will open doors to giving you the lifestyle and career you deserve to have.

As for the age difference, I promise you it will matter less and less the older you get. If your friends and family have a big problem with the age difference now, it is up to you to decide if you can put up with it. Is the relationship worth the grief everyone is giving you? It sounds like it is. It may be cliched but listen to your heart. You know who you love and what you want. Do yourself a favor and cool it on the marriage talk (at least to your family and friends). Throwing the word "marriage" around at 15 can freak people out.

Please seriously consider waiting to make decisions about getting engaged/getting married until you finish high school. It will make your life so much easier in the long run. Good luck.

Answer 2

Hello Dear =)

Merry Christmas to you and your Boyfriend.....=)

You are only a year (and change) apart, which may seem like an issue now, but won't be in the future.

One of the happiest couples I know have been together since they were 12. They were inseparable all through school, and knew that they would be married as soon as they could. They moved in together, went to the same college, both became teachers, and got married. They're married 20 years now, but have been "together" more than 35.

Whenever you see them, they are kissing or holding hands.

Sometimes (not often, but sometimes) people are simply meant to be together, and they recognize that at an early age.

So, my advice is to keep it respectable, so that both of your parents won't get upset over it, and spend each possible moment together, until you are mature enough to go on with your lives together.

Good luck and Namaste,

--Tom

Answer 3

Sounds like he's only about a year younger... that's not bad at all. Talking about marriage at this stage is really stupid though honestly. Worry about marriage when you're older than 22, not 15. I don't care what you say; you're NOT READY to get married until you're AT LEAST out of high school. Even that is extremely young. You may love him, but other things are involved in a life long decision like that. Little things like who's going to take the trash out at night can ruin marriages; you have to plan for them in advance.

So don't worry about marriage yet. I don't think the age is a problem however, especially if you really feel as strongly as you say. But don't rush your feelings. I've done it and it isn't fun.

Answer 4

Well, i had the same feeling when i was about your age and it's totally normal! Even if people says you're too young what matters is that you have that feeling about your boyfriend! Ok, perhaps it's to early to start something important as marriage, you should do that when you get a stable life, emocional and professional! But even if you do the wrong option, well, you will learn with it! Just don't do something you can't get back! Be carefull about sex, alwaya prevent, but be happy!

Answer 5

You are still exceptionally young, therefore marriage should be placed far from the thoughts of this relationship! For the moment, cherish the fact you feel these strong emotions for him and date, do crazy, wild, exotic things us teens enjoy doing and live life to the maximum! Express your true emotions, laugh uncontrollably, kiss slowly, touch tenderly and forget age. All it is is a figure that creates a barrier. His age is of no importance, you two are truly infatuated -embrace this. Besides, in a few years the age gap will mean little... My mother is dating somebody fifteen years her junior!

Answer 6

Listen hun, sorry if i am being offencive or anything like that, but in my opinion you should not give a **** what anyone thinks as it is your own life. It is very hard to find the other half of yours as we live in a very big world and if you already found him you are very lucky. The age gap does not matter as long as you both truely love each other and what about the marrying bit you will take that in count little bit later in your life. Believe me i know that as i am at the same age as you!!! Enjoy every bit of it hun. Good luck and i hope i helped. xxx

Answer 7

Where the hell are your parents? This is why the pregnancy rate is so high. You don't know what love is. I bet you anything that another guy can come along and tell you the same thing and be much better looking than this guy and you would go for it. Slow down girl. What's the rush?

Answer 8

Seriously, your in over your head. You need to be mature enough to take a step back and look at what you're thinking if doing. He's just too young and so are you for thus to end in anything but a train wreck. Please heed this comment. You're about to do something you'll have to regret for the rest of your life.

Answer 9

you can still go out with him! he's going to be 14 soon

and don't worry about the confusion you're going through, I fell in "puppy love" when I was 13 (the guy was 14) and the feelings are very strong. enjoy it! it will never be the same!

but please, wait a few years before you start talking about marriage. A good age to start thinking about marriage is between 23-25. Good luck!

Answer 10

Okay i seriously think that you need to rethink this. Not because of the age but you should meet new people. You just cant go around high school thinking about how you are going to get married. You should meet new people and then see if this guy is really the one you want to be with. oh and i think its lust...not love.