Our two years kid does not listen to us. He is very poor in eye contact, and does not listen to our commands. He does lot of things through out the day, babbles a lot but does not say a single word as suc. Any suggession how to make him attentive ??
2006-12-24 07:11:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Let me add some more things about him, he likes to play with all kind of toys and gets angry too fast, but cool down in a moment.
2006-12-24 07:22:35 · update #1
He may be autistic especially with the lack of eye contact. Try to get him to look you in the eyes when you are talking to him. If he won't at all then you need to see the pediatrician. That is one of the major signs of autism as well as angry outburst, only wanting to play with certain toys like blocks and getting very angry when you try to make him do other things.
2006-12-24 07:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sissy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's two, he's WAY too busy to listen to you. He has things to do! To help combat the problem, you're going to have to get in the floor with him. Squat down and get eye level with him. Then tell him what you want. It's going to put things in perspective for both of you. You will know for a fact that he heard every word you said. If he still decides not to mind you, then place him in a predesignated spot, for two minutes of time out. Like I said he's busy, he won't like being told he can't play. This is going to be hard for him. I don't know a single two year old that will sit for two minutes, just because Mom or Dad told them too. I suggest sitting with him for the whole two minutes. When the time out is done, take him to do, whatever it is, that you wanted do. Go with him to do it. When the two of you are finished, tell him Thank you, you're a good boy, give him a hug and turn him loose again. It will take awhile. It will take persistance, and an enormous amount of patience. He'll get better about it though.
2006-12-24 07:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by Patty O' Green 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're describing my husband...for reals. You have to realize first of all you are dealing with a 2 yr old. He may be autistic, have attention disorder or any number of things including a cocktail of things. This is your sign that says you have been chosen to not only be a parent but a "SUPER PARENT". Don't worry, God chooses people very well. You just have to be accepting of your calling. Having your child tested is your best bet that way you will be armed with information on how to make a much better life for your child. May I also suggest that the anger your child demonstrates is from frustration of not being understood and a strong desire to communicate -that definitely is a contributing factor. Stay hopeful at all times and threaten to harm anyone who tries to put limitations on your child. Always keep goals no matter how long it takes to achieve them. I know what you are going through therefore I know you will make it.
2006-12-24 07:36:48 · answer #3 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont forget.. hes TWO!! two year olds have the attention span of a doorknob. Thats why they call it the terrible twos. If my son (23 months) ignores a comand I give him.. I count to three and give him a chance to try again. If that doesnt work.. he gets a time out. Its rough sometimes, he will cry and pitch a fit about being made to sit still for 2 minutes...but it gets the point across and he stops the bad behavior. It has made him pay more attention to me, and what I am saying... and he looks me in the eye when I call his name now, because he is trying to "read" me, and see what I want from him. Good luck
2006-12-24 07:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When was the last time he was seen by a pediatrician? He could have a hearing problem, or as one other suggested, he may be autistic. I would start with a visit to the doctor a.s.a.p.
Also, you say "he does not listen to our commands"....how do you talk to him? He could just be tuning you out. (Yes - they will do that at the age of 2.) He also could be so intently focused on something he's interested in and sincerely does not hear you.
2006-12-24 08:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what "sissy" said is very true.
children who have autheism cannot maintain proper eye contact and they get easily angry and have outburst; because their brain only works in a certain way.
but in any case he isnt..
maybe u should try using simple short sentence to talk to him
oh and make sure that ur commands are of his age and that he understands.
dont make unreasonable expectation that he knows he cannot keep, so he rather ignores it.
and be consistent..
dont say this one moment and the other another moment..
again if they are so confused,
they rather ignore u.
2006-12-28 04:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your child's doctor about it, your child could be autistic or may just need a little help. In the mean time try pointing tothings and saying what they are when he seems frustrated.Try to tell him what you think is wrong in words, it may help.
goodluck
2006-12-25 16:51:57 · answer #7 · answered by mommyof2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds like a normal 2 year old! Remember to give positive reinforcement, and lots of praise when he follows direction. Read lots of stories to him to help build his vocabulary.
2006-12-24 07:41:13 · answer #8 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a baby..get some parenting classes for the new year, you don't know what you're doing!
2006-12-24 08:10:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋