How do I get my confidence back?

Question

About 2 years a ago, a girl I really loved and I stopped dating(her choice). In the 2 years that followed I dated 3 other girls and always felt we would get back together but I've come to terms and realize that won't happen. The 3 others in that time were to put it kindly "nuts". So now I'm in the mind frame that I wasn't good enough for girl #1 and all I can attract are crazy girls, which doesn't seem like a good thing for me. All of this has taken a toll on my self confidence which has led me to be less social. How can I regain my self confidence ? especially with the opposite sex?

Answer 1

Wouldn't it be wonderful if you could just go pick it up at the lost & found. I believe when you really love someone that just becasue they stop loving you doesn't mean you can't keep your love for them in your heart. Certainly, if you've been in a realtionship and the girl decides to part ways it is best to honor her needs and part ways,.... to , "let go" Rather than think in terms that you weren't "good enough" for girl # 1 ( your words ) why not adjust your thinking ? try this thought ....you weren't meant for each other. beyond the point she decided to seperate...from your couplehood. ...It is a universal truth that in realtionship to others we grow and they either stay in apart of our lives forever or with some they only pass through---( certain stages in our lives.) If you've moved into non-social hood know this ---- you're not--- going to meet anyone but yourself.. there ! and that's ok maybe you need time to reflect and do some reassessments in regards to what you are looking for in a girl freind.. in an intimate relationship ----.it's an ideal time to go and read as much as you can get your hands on in the self help section of your local book store. I am confident that once you fill your head with new, positive thoughts you will begin to feel yourself change. Regain your confidence.... And--- as you find yourself interacting with the opposite sex you'll find yourself more confident than ever...because you will have acknowledged you are your thoughts manifest ! You can stay in your pity party, or realize that you in a state of transformation... a period of persoanl growth. Your choice is to either stand still or move ahead. the future is waiting for you with open arms ! Stretch yourself, expand your ideas... Nurture your capabilites. Channel your energy in to becoming the best you possible...don't cry over spilled milk. I'm a woman who believes you can do it....for in your question there are your answers ! I hope my words help...

Answer 2

First, decide what you want in a partner, you might be surprised that all the things you loved about your ex no longer appeal to you.Once you've done that,get out and do the stuff you enjoy! Don't do it with the intention of meeting someone, do it because it's fun.Finally, realize what you have to offer in a relationship.Don't settle for less just for the sake of "having someone."
Good luck!

Answer 3

Start to work out a little and boost your metabolism..,.this produces endorphins and certain other chemicals in the brain, such as seratonin (which makes you feel good). When you work out or find ways to increase your heart rate for short periods of time, you feel better and when you feel better, you look better. Others pick up on that, and you will begin to get looks of approval which will boost your confidence.

Answer 4

I actually find it insulting that you refer to some girls as ''nuts'' and you can only attract them.
I think YOU need to get to be a little nicer if you want to attract some nice girls, buddy.

Answer 5

Hey man all girls are crazy, its just finding one you are so crazy about that you over look what a nut she is.

Answer 6

stop trying to replace the female you lost, shes gone,start new