he's sweet but really unromantic.. he has never surprised me or anything.. i dont think he'll change.. i love him to death, he's a really great guy and i think he really loves me but im a hopless romantic and i dont think ill ever experience romantic stuff w/ him. im afraid that i might get tired of his "routine-ways" should i end it now or im just being too shallow?
Since im a hopeless romantic, obviously i've given him lots of sweet stuff, i've done romantic stuff for him, i've surprised him a lot of times.. but still he doesn't get that i want those things too..
2006-12-24 06:56:03 · 12 answers · asked by im star girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately men don't change unless they see a need to change. He is in a relationship with you and it suits him just fine, he has no need to change. If he lost you and he knew why he lost you he would change in order to keep the next girl friend. If you came back into the picture he would revert back to the way he was because that was what worked for him last time. I've seen this time and again in my friend's and their children's relationships. It's just the sad facts of life.
So, if he is really the one you love and want to keep for life, I suggest you change. Otherwise, as much as you love this guy, he will never fulfill your emotional needs and this will effect you later to the point that the relationship will fall apart and cause much heartbreak. Good luck.
2007-01-01 06:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by Ding-Ding 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I seem to have found the girl match to your guy. And me the same as you... I can honestly say I don't think he will change... I have ALWAYS been the romantic type....I started doing stuff like that in Middle School. I have had nothing but long relationships....Long yes because they liked the way I treated them....Happy, not so much, or I would be married by now. I don't think I could handle another relationship without a little bit of spontaneousness from my g/f.
If the love is truly there...stay....if it doesn't really light your fire, take off like a shot.
2006-12-24 15:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by chef nate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For people to change most need to have a reason to change like a major event like a death of a freind or a car accident or finding God. Secondly, if you want him to be a romantic and he is'nt , he will never be the guy you are looking for. romance is one of those things that you either have or you don't. Even life changing events won't make a guy be romantic. Don't set yourself up for a life of disappointment.
2006-12-24 15:06:10 · answer #3 · answered by logank1469 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are just like that. I think that if he is a good person and will provide and be loyal that he's worth keeping because that's rare nowadays. You might be being a little shallow. But, your needs are important too. And if you really think that you will end up unhappy you should probably end it now before you get in deeper. But, please talk it out with him first and give him a chance.
2006-12-24 14:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by SchrodingersTigress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some guys are like this. You need to know what you want and if you think that he can't provide you with the stuff that you want, you got to made a decision if you wish to carry on with the relationship.
Whether you are being shallow or not is not determined by us but yourself coz only you know what sort of relationship you want in your life.
2006-12-24 19:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly end it. You are on a bad path that will lead to cheating and fighting. Why settle for something that your not happy with. That's wants wrong with marriage. GET WHAT YOU WANT AND BE WITH SOMEONE THAT WANTS YOU! No you are not shallow for having unmet needs.
2006-12-24 15:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by wombizzle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...i know how you feel...since you guys are close...i think you should confront him with your feelings...be like suprise me with something that woould make my cry of happiness..or just make you smile BIG..give it a try...i dont think you should leave him...you love him that is no excuse and most importantly he loves you...theres men these days that show romance to one lady and the next day decide to give their romance to anther girl...dont let that hurt your relationship...good luck...have hope in everything
2006-12-24 15:01:53 · answer #7 · answered by Mololina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people change but dont be a fool by thinking "oh he will change". people change only if they want too.....
by you always getting him things and hes not getting anything for you tells me that he is kind of using you, have you ever let him know that you would like to be pampered too?
maybe you should let him know that you would like those things yourself, see where it goes from the talk
2006-12-24 15:12:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i think that if he really loves u then he might make an affort to change the way he acts and maybe everything might turn out great he has to take the risk if he really loves u.
2006-12-24 15:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by bre 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should talk to him and tell him how you feel......start by asking him.......why he never suprises you with anything... just be honest....but i wouldnt end it if everything is going well and it is just over that one thing.......cause it might make you seem shallow and just be about what you want..........
2006-12-24 15:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by jenny_b2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋