I feel like I have made a terrible mistake?

Question

I guess I was feeling the xmas sprirt and I decided to call my ex and tell him that I wasn't trying to be rude when I didn't return his call or when I sent a text saying that I would send him his book instead of returning it in person. He answered the phone and said don't worry about it in a brush off kind of way. He said he'd call me back and never did. I've never experienced this, so I left a message saying that I didn't know he was capable of such childish games and I told him that he had no class. I told him that I was in love with someone I didn't even know. He called back and told me that I'm making him out to be the bad guy and he told me if he's such a bad guy then don't call him anymore. I was shocked. I left a text saying that I'm sorry for anything I did to have him acting this way and that was the end. I feel like I should have never called him in the first place and I really feel doubtful about the text. Telling me not to call him is the worst; no one has ever done that

Answer 1

He had to emotionally shut you off. You gave him no hope for anything, not even a friendshipt when you said you didn't want to return the book in person, basically implying that even friendship was out of the question. Learn from this experience. Maybe now you're feeling a bit like he felt.

Answer 2

Okay. Leave this guy alone for a little bit. Give him the book, and any other items that he left at your place, and leave him alone. No calls, no texts, nothing. If you want a friendship with this guy, you will leave him alone until you guys are both over each other. You are interpreting each other's actions as childish because you just got out of a relationship with each other, and nobody is in a good mood post relationship. Sometimes it takes a few months to drop any bitterness and move on the real way. Until then, just leave each other alone and really, move on.

Answer 3

OK, so it was fine for you not to return his call and you expect that he will be ok with that, but when he did not call back then he is being the childish one and you are not ok with that. Sweetheart, you need to grow up and realize that people will not put up with your games. You need to realize that everyone else has feelings and you must respect them, always use the "Golden Rule"......."treat others how you would want to be treated." In this case, you got to see first hand that you did not like being treated how you were treating him. Use that as a life lesson, this was your fault and good for him to feed you some of your own medicine. You deserved it and the wallow in it. You need to apologize to him and then leave him forever alone as he has way more class than you could ever have.

Answer 4

If you feel you've made a mistake try again to make things right so you can clear your conscience. If you don't think that's such a good idea, stop dwelling on it & move on. Remember he IS an EX. So, you don't owe him anything really. Just think things thru better in the future.~

Answer 5

Do you know what a stalker is. They are the ones that feel they have been hurt by the other person or even have the right to see what the other one is doing cuz of their insecurity. You have a bit of stalker in you. If a guy does not call back or says buzz off, do that. Do not worry about it. So he hurt your pride. Next time, a mosquito bites you, are you going to spend the rest of your life trying to kill every mosquito. Learn grasshopper. lol

Answer 6

That sucks. You are right, you shouldn't have called in the first place but you did and you can't go back in time. So just leave it alone. Don't contact him again and just let it go. I was in the same situation. I just stopped talking to him all together which is what I should have done in the beginning. Good luck.

Answer 7

your mistake was to stoop to his level. you say he was childish and playing games and then you turn around and do the same to him (by saying you were in love with someone else). it actually sounds like you still have some serious feelings for this person or else you wouldn't care so much about what he thinks or cares about.

If I were you I would call him and tell him you would like to clear the air. Wish him a happy holiday and tell him you meant no ill will.

Answer 8

Hmmm . . . I think you need to forget about your ex. You've obviously hurt him a lot. Why do you want to call him so much? Don't you know that ex's usually don't want to have anything to do with you after the breakup? It's usually not a good idea to get back with an ex either, because the problems and resentment usually remain. Good luck!

Answer 9

Sometimes girls need to speak up.. sometimes we don't speak whats on our minds... and thats a good thing you told him not to... I think it is at least.. But still be sweet to him and love him in a friendly way... just try and brush off this experience.. because its not worth getting a fuss over.. Maybe you two weren't meant to be together but dont' let this situation not allow you two to be friends... I dont know if you're into this or anything.. but I would talk to God and ask him to help you.... he will.. if you want to talk anytime feel free to email me
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Blessings this christmas season!!! I believe in you .. you can get through this!!!

Answer 10

For your own sake and sanity - you must resist the urge to call him. It is hard and devastating, but better for you in the long run. Give yourself some time to grieve for him and move on - keep yourself busy. That is what I did - I did volunteer work and went back to school - to get my own head and heart back together and it helped - it takes time though and there will always be a very soft spot in my heart for the other fellow - as I truly loved him. But life awaits and you need to get back to it.