It seems as though men get involved on a superficial level or are less hurt when a relationship ends. Or is it just that they love differently with less emotional involvement? Do they love through the depths of their being like women do?
2006-12-24 06:31:16 · 22 answers · asked by DconS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe they do, they just are way better at hiding their emotions then woman are. Men do love deeply, they do get their hearts broken they are human!
Men are taught to be tough and not cry. As were women are taught to be soft, gentle and caring. I think Men are just as or even more emotional then women are in relationships, they just have a harder time showing it, As were women wear their emotions on their sleeves. Men dont want to feel like softy or other Men to think they are gay. (no offense) But you know how some guys think.
Think about it, everyone women wants a Man that is caring sweet and emotional. But would/could you see your self with a Man that cried everytime something went wrong in the relationship, or if you tried to talk to him about the relationship he thought you were cheating on him or got upset because he feels you dont show him enough love or whatever it is that women feel/act? I think not!!
I think thats why Men are so frustrated with women because they are too emotional and why they dont show their emotional side or true feelings. It be one musshy relationship. Who wants to cry all the time? Women want to feel protected by their Man, correct? Would you feel protected by a man that cried all the time or was emotional? I would not, Id be frustrated as hell and want to slap him silly! (jk) Little arguements and frustration is what keeps us alive.
2006-12-24 06:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by Chunkerbutt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! We hurt just as bad, usually more because we have to suffer alone. If the guys you're dating only get involved on a superficial level, you're dating the wrong guys. Some guys are just horndogs who don't care about anyone (until they get much much older). But guys who show too much emotion are turned away for being too boring or wussy. I think you need to date different men than the ones who typically approach you. It might help if you stop having sex with them until you've been together for at the very least six months. That will let you know what kind of person you're dealing with. Good luck!
2006-12-24 14:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to think a guy could never commit or love the way I do until I met my husband. He feels the same way I do about our relationship. Before we married there was a few times I wanted / tried to break it off with him. I never wanted it to be for good, but I guess I was scared and afraid of getting hurt with being so attached and having so many bad relationships before that. But everytime I tried he would get so upset and tell me why do you have to leave I love you with all my heart and want nothing or no one but you and you want to walk away. He even cried. After a few times of my insecurities almost driving me away and seeing him get all upset the way he did I knew he loved me the way I loved him and he wasn't going to be like all those other guys. Now, we have been together for over 4 years and just recently married. And he was more emotional at our wedding than I was. It is very cute and it made me feel great to know how much he cared.
There are great guys out there that will feel the same as you do, but you can't look for them. You just have to let it happen and it will. Don't worry about it, just have fun and the guy you have been waiting for will show up.
2006-12-24 14:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been married twice and now live with a fellow I am in love with. I also am the mother of three grown sons. I have seen my sons get their hearts broken (devastingly) when the girl broke up with them. My first ex was not upset as he had already moved on (he was having an affair) - so no broken heart for him. My second ex - is a sweet loving kind man and yes I did break his heart (the guilt I will carry forever). The newest fellow in my life is very closed off - due to having his heart broken by his ex-wife and even tried suicide - for fear he was never going to see his children again. So it depends on the man - some who are kind hearted hurt and others who are not - don't hurt.
2006-12-24 14:41:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course they do, after all they are human. they have emotions and hearts too!! guys just know how to hide it better, but that doesn't mean they don't feel the same as girls do after a break up, or just when they are in love. feelings are expressed by every living thing, it makes no difference between a guy & a girl. just because guys dont show it, doesnt mean they dont cry or feel miserable after girls break up with them! Don;t get me wrong guys can love, and they feel hurt! they are real people! girls tend to think that all guys want to do is get in your pants, but thats not true (mabye for some) there are wonderful guys who really want to care about soemone & start a family, they have priorities. not all guys hang out in strip clubs... there is as many different types of guys as there are girls, i just hope everyone can understand that.
2006-12-24 14:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes men do love and hurt just like women and that is why they try so hard not to get involved because they dont want to experience that pain.
2006-12-24 14:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men loves harder than women but keeps their feelings inside and is definitely not emotional with it as women are.A women will tell a man she loves him more faster a man will buy yet that man is loving but not showing. A man observes a lots with his love whereas a woman wants to be emotional to get her point over.
2006-12-24 14:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men love deeper than we do but they have been taught not to let people see them cry as men have a greater need to belong to a woman than a woman needs to belong to a man in a love women can live alone and get along fine as we do all the slave work and we were born to take care of a man or a child and Men cannot do squat,,,,so yes, darling they fall madly in love to their very core and they hurt for ever and they cannot take care OF them selves,,,
2006-12-24 14:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course they do, but most won't let down their guard long enough. If you want a guy to fall in love with you its simple. DON"T HAVE SEX WITH HIM. MAKE HIM GET TO KNOW YOU. If he starts to really care about you he will wait. If he does not want to wait then he is only interested in sex and he will leave and the problem will be solved. I'm a guy. And I know. I also mean make him wait for sex, not wait a week, not a month, but a minimum of 6 months possibly even a year.
2006-12-24 14:43:23 · answer #9 · answered by logank1469 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think men fall just as deeply or even more so. My husband whom I love dearly sometimes gets emotional and lets on just how much he loves me and it's so intense.. (beyond the everyday I love you).. It's very surprising and amazing..
But they do seem to move on more quickly rather than dwell on the loss of a love..
2006-12-24 14:37:35 · answer #10 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋