well, i wasnt living at home for more than 14 months, then i got pregnant. I moved back home, but i dont want my mom to get mad at me, even though that will be her first reaction! i am scared to tell her, especially cause she hates the baby's father...i am only 17, and i dont plan on letting this stop me from the career that i wish to pursue! its gonna be hard, but i am a fighter.....
2006-12-24 06:20:37 · 23 answers · asked by surx3_enana213 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I know this is a difficult time for you but it is not a time of regrets, it is however a time of action and anticipation for the new door that will be opening in your life. I am very proud of you!--It sounds like you are going to:
"Handle your responsibilities and aim for your goals." (<-----repeat this over and over) The decisions you make from here on out will be important ones not only for yourself but for your child as well. It is not easy to be a single parent but if you are the fighter that you say you are then you will succeed. It will take perserverance, committment and sacrifice.
Telling your parents is a big hurdle. Allow them their reaction, because they are going to have one. It may be anger, sadness or joy they may just go through all of the emotions. But let them do it, dont fight them, dont yell back. Just give them their time and space to deal with it. You may be surprised once you all get past their initial reaction, just how supportive they will be. You may find that they will be your biggest help and your mother may end up to be one of your best friends.
My mother, myself, my sister, all of my cousins, and my daughter were all teenage mothers. None of us were on welfare, yet none of us had much money, but we did survive. Not only did I survive but my children turned out to be incredible people. I believe that happened because of the decisions I made throughout there childhood.
I put them first, I did not put anything above them. Their needs were my first priority. I did not party, I did not allow the men I dated to get involved with them. I put my nose to the grindstone and made sure they ate, had clothes, and a roof over there head. We spent all our time together. Without a strong faith in God I would not have made it. My only regret is that I did not go to school as much as I could have. By the time my children were raised I only had an Associates Degree.
Keep your head up you will make it!
2006-12-24 06:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to come into a place away from other people with you sit down with her. And say very happily that your pregnant. Make sure to sound sweet and not obnoxious because if she knows that you are truly happy with your baby then if she is a good mom she will support you through your pregnancy. No matter if she doesn't like your boyfriend she should accpet your choices as long as they are safe and healthy. I hope everything works out for you. :) happy holidays
2006-12-24 06:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically brace her for it. Sit down and tell her you have something very serious to talk about. Before you tell her, tell her that you will let nothing get in the way of your future, and that you are only human and that you love her and hopes she can love you no matter what. Then tell her and hope for the best. Good luck!
2006-12-24 06:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know it's going to be hard to tell your mom, but it is something that you need to do. It probably wont be as bad as you may be thinking. I wish you the best luck with telling your mom and with your baby.
2006-12-24 06:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, Tell her you made a mistake, and are sorry,........ but now there is this life, to bring into the world, and if she will forgive you and be willing to help you, you will appreciate it very much. This is going to be her first Grandchild from you, and I hope and pray that it will work out for the best for all of you. God bless you and Merry Christmas, to you and yours.
2006-12-24 06:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by pooterilgatto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you would like to discuss your pregnancy with your mom on a neutral ground--not at home--in a restaurant, or at the close relatives' holiday table, for example, but please do it soon. Some moms-to-be hand everyone a little gift bag with some baby items--pacifier, or baby socks, for example; believe me such gift says it all without words. Good luck.
2006-12-24 06:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her as soon as possible, cause if not its only gonna make it worse. If the guys a loser you better whoop him into shape, cause anyone can make a baby but takes a man to support one!
2006-12-24 06:23:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good luck! But, you should really let her know! She will be mad at 1st I know because if any of my daughters were pregnant living at home I'd initially be mad but then I would definately try to help her! Try please if you let more time pass she will definately me furious! What are you waiting for to have your baby alone, she's your mom!!
2006-12-24 06:27:14 · answer #8 · answered by Maria C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get her a "Merry Christmas Grandma!" card and give it to her when the two of you are alone. Or find another way that's somewhat humorous to get the serious conversation started.
2006-12-24 06:26:37 · answer #9 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her. Just say, "mom i have to tell you something and i want you to not judge me for it."
when she hears this, she'll probably get a surprised look and then ask you what possibly could be the matter. then tell her the truth.
2006-12-24 06:24:09 · answer #10 · answered by AWill 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋