I'm preparing for my mom's typical comments that generally make implications that my bf is a white trash loser who is overweight, didn't graduate high school, and doesn't make enough money to support me. I have the support of my brother and sister-in-law, but it's the holidays. My BF is not invited to anything, and my birthday is coming up in 5 days. How do I deal with the future onslaught of phonecalls and moronic hypocrisy?
2006-12-24 06:17:24 · 13 answers · asked by marisa_g1rl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Stand your ground, obviously they dont know anything about him so what gives them the right to say those things about him. Have a talk with them, communicate how you feel on the issue and how you feel about him, let them know you need their support because no matter how much they say about him doesn't mean its right.
The best way to handle a situation like that is not to prepare for it but to go with how you feel. Even if they dont give up doesnt mean you have to take in what they say, they are entitled to their opinoin and you are entitled to yours, live your life the way you want to. Eventually they will be proven wrong and realize their wrongs.
2006-12-24 06:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by JMan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Accepting a person also means accepting the one the person is with. My brother was married 3 times. None of his former wives were accepted in the family. All 3 were talked about behind their backs. When my family did that I would get up and leave. When asked why I simply said, "If you're not brave enough to tell your problems to the one your talking about then don't expect me to sit here and listen to them." Tell them to put up or shut up. If they can't accept your boyfriend, whom you love, then they don't deserve to even talk to you.
2006-12-24 14:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Bones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's your life not theirs. they may not approve of him but it is your life and your choice. keep bringing him around and they will eventually accept him and see him as you do. he may not be invited but you were and he is with you. show everyone all his good points. have him try to go the extra mile but only to a point no one should be walking all over either of you. how ever you put it as long as your happy then they should support you in some way.
2006-12-24 14:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by a l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? In most cases, the people you choose to date, shouldn't be effected by what anyone around you says.
Tell your family that he makes you happy, and they should just accept that and let you live your life.
Just remember, he's your boyfriend, not theirs. So their opinions of him, doesn't make him any less potential than what you saw in him, when you agreed to date him.
You should always be proud of who you date.
2006-12-24 14:19:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be sweet and just think it is for today and the beginning of new Years you must tell mom you love him and if he is not WELCOME then you will not be there with the family of course this only applies if you are old enough to make this judgement call.
2006-12-24 14:20:46 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, listen up...you have to make sure he's invited to something or you both go out one night for a special meal together. your parents need to realize that your grown up enough to make your own desicions. just tell your parents that your happy with him and they're just gonna have to stand him and be nice or you won't go to anything with them
2006-12-24 14:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by alisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite your bf to parties and tell your family they are unwelcome untill they can treat your bf like family too.
2006-12-24 14:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yuor parents sound rude.They should support you if you really like him.Invite him your self and see how your parents react to you being happy with him!
2006-12-24 14:29:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are an adult and you live by yourself, then you need to let your mother know that if she cannot respect your home and the man you love, then she is not welcome at your home.
Just because she is your mother does not give her the right to disrespect you.
2006-12-24 14:20:56 · answer #9 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can never understand why people with parents like this even have anything to do with them. How can you stand it?
2006-12-24 14:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋