I have been with my girlfriend for about 2 months now. We both work a lot. She has her moments like any other. This is one of those relationships where you know deep down that they are the perfect one for you, so if it is rushed, it may turn sour. We went to school together and have known each other for the better part of 20 years. I need help...How do I get a stubborn girl to loosen up and communicate her feelings?
2006-12-24 05:50:28 · 8 answers · asked by chef nate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just keep talking and being there. Voice ideas about future plans, like this spring I can't wait to take you...... or Next winter we can ...... Let her come to belive you are in her life for the long haul. Tell her plain and simple you love the way her eyes sparkle like ... ( fill in the blank)
At our age, we ladies can be stubborn only because we don't want to be hurt again.
I hope she hasn't become so jaded that she isn't willing to take another chance on love.
Good luck and Merry Christmas
2006-12-24 06:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by flutteredonby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can't get her to loosen up like that. Some might say that if you communicate your own feelings, she will also because it's human nature to copy what everyone else is doing. But if you try that, go very slow with it. It's very dangerous -- telling her too much will make her lose respect for you. And once the respect is out, the interest usually follows. Two months is not nearly long enough. You may have known her for a long time, but she's still getting used to dating you. Be patient.
Just keep going out with her. Two months is a really short time! I mean, it's barely at the point where you should give her small gifts! Be patient and keep dating her! Don't spend too much time on the phone either! Good luck!
DO NOT ASK WHERE YOU STAND WITH HER! It reeks of begging and makes you seem like an impatient clingy wuss! It's OK for them to do that to us, but not the other way around.
Oh yeah . . . it isn't cheesy to talk about your feelings. It's just destructive to her interest in you. If you talk about your feelings at this point, you will seriously seem like a pushover! Let her come to you with her feelings, OVER TIME. And express yourself to her VERY gradually and with a hint of humor.
2006-12-24 05:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play the opposite role, if you can. She knows you love her, (She has you) she's comfortable with the fact that no matter what you will be there. Try not being so available, make her feel what it would be like to suddenly loose the affection and love you show her so that she may appreciate it more.
2006-12-24 06:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what James Bond does, talk to her with Confidence and Humour. Better yet, when you talk to her, joke around and make it look like she is the one trying to rush it, not you. I don't know if that makes sense or not, but it sure does to me. Of course, when your teasing her about trying to rush the relationship, make sure your being funny. Make her laugh, it will bring her gaurd down, and then she'll lossen up.
2006-12-24 05:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by PsyChoPath 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does she know or feel that you are the perfect one for her? Her stubbornness may be related to her taking time to answer that question. Do you love her and are in love with her. Then tell her.
2006-12-24 05:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just make her feel like its all about her. Tell her u love her and want to be with her forever. MAke her feel comfortable with u and dont push her to move any faster than she wants to becuz then she thinks u dont care about her. Just make her feel good about herself and the relationship and she'll loosen up just fine
2006-12-24 05:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by so sophisticated 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to be honest with her and tell her your feelings but also stress that you are not rushing matters, but you need to know where you stand with her and if what you told her is something she can see herself being involved in. Your answer should then guide you in the direction you need to go with her.
2006-12-24 05:53:51 · answer #7 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you love her and talk to her about how you feel. Alot of people say that it is stupid and cheesy to tell her how you feel but you really should,Then she will understand that you have feelings too.
But your a good guy so what ever you think will work ,will work!
Good luck
2006-12-24 06:05:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋