How do you tell someone that you love that you just found out you have genital herpes? Do you even tell them or just end the relationship because your going to be alone for the rest of your pathatic life. I love this person a lot but I dont want him/her to look down on me. We have been talking for about 3-4 months and I just found out 2wks.
2006-12-24 05:37:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-12-26 04:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by leslie l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadden,
Whether or not you stay and tell the person depends on how you will feel if you do, or if you don't. If you tell him, is he likely to respect your privacy and keep it to himself? If you don't, and choose to leave him, will you wonder 'if only I had tried'? Other factors may also be important: is your town a small one, with a conservative attitude to sex? Or is it a big city, where talking about and treating STDs is just another part of life? However strong a person you are, your community's attitudes may well affect how you feel about letting people know about your sexual health.
If you decide to stay and tell, rest assured that there are many guys out there who are happy to date women with herpes. (I'm one of them!) But you can increase the odds of a good reaction by telling the guy in a relaxed way.
I dated a woman with genital herpes a few years ago. I find in retrospect that the way she told me about her condition was quite reassuring.
We were at a park, enjoying a normal day, when she asked me very casually if I knew much about STDs. As a man, of course, I was eager to impress her, so I said, 'Sure, there's X and Y and Z...'. That got the subject raised and allowed her, after asking polite questions about X, Y and Z, to mention that, oh, by the way, she had herpes.
If you want other examples of how women have told their partners, see the Yoshi2me website reference below. (Look for the words 'Telling Stories' half-way down that page).
If you want to learn more about me, visit the Genital Herpes Corner website also referenced below.
Good luck.
Robert
2006-12-26 10:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by Robert C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to tell them. Herpes Simplex Type 2, is NOT a death sentence. As an ER nurse I see it all to often. There are many things you need to do. First off, educate yourself about Type 2 Herpes Simplex. Next you need to establish its incubation period, 30 days to 90 days prior to your first, and obviously diagnosable outbreak.
Have you been with this person that long? Have you been unfaithful? If not then they have. If you have not been intimate witht his person, then you have contracted it from your last partner. Good luck. It's a brand new day.
2006-12-24 05:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by mumra_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having sex with this person then you have a moral obligation to tell them. If it hasn't gotten sexual, then I would hold off for a bit. Lots of people have genital herpes and their partners are aware of it. Just practice safe sex(meaning with a condom) and don't have sex while you have an outbreak. There is a med called Valtrex that will lessen the outbreaks.
2006-12-24 05:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by Sissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, poor you! You need to just tell them. You might not be alone for the rest of your life if they reject you. I think there are dating services for people with herpes. Search the Internet! Good luck!
2006-12-24 05:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with them. How would you feel if they did not tell you they had an incurable STD and yall had been sleeping together? Your death would be almost guaranteed if you ran up on the wrong person.
You are not guaranteed to be alone. There are millions of people walking around with herpes. You just have to take steps to be careful not to transmit it to others.
2006-12-24 05:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love that person then you should tell them. End the relationship after you explain to them. But still be friends afterwards. Im sorry thats happend to who ever but thats the right thing to do.
2006-12-24 05:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by midnight princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gush, don't you hear about hospitals? Go and see a doctor, do whatever you must do with that, get clean. It's just a disease - get it under control, do not let it control your life!
2006-12-24 05:45:32 · answer #8 · answered by Bella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is be honest with that one person. Take it from there
2006-12-24 05:42:01 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love that person then you'll tell them. Good luck.
2006-12-24 05:42:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋