Been dating this girl for 6 months. And already we've had two close calls. She tells me she's pregnant, I go on this roller coaster ride with her, and I'm lucky that after a doctor's visit it's negative. I use a condom and she supposedly is on birth control. I don't know if she's lying, if the condom is leaking etc. It's gettings cary, like she wants to have a kid? I love kids, but not right now until I know her for a long time first.
2006-12-24 05:29:24 · 20 answers · asked by gymgangsta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
(from the blog: dumpyourwifenow.com) "So you’re busy shagging the town Minx for several months, and poof one morning over a croissant at the bookstore she says 'by the way i’m pregnant.'
Railroading a guy into parenthood isn’t just some “baby daddy” soap-opera scenario. ...
Your friends at dumpyourwifenow.com are not only about liberating the unhappy male from a miserable marriage, but are also about schooling those who have made the leap to single life (or smart enough to never have married); about the tricks that some of these awful shallow Western women do to elevate themselves ahead.
A few years ago Zammo got a vasectomy.
He met a girl soon afterwards. She was nice and attractive but with a selfish streak that raised a big red flag. She was 32 at the time and he could practically HEAR her biological clock ticking. Regardless, she was a good lay, easy on the eyes, and reasonably good company.
He did NOT tell her about his vasectomy and he always used a condom with her to protect against STDs. She assumed, obviously, that the condom was only used for birth control. Silly girl.
They date for a few months. He never made any move towards commitment but she brought it up occasionally. For him, this was a casual but pleasant relationship. For her - as he was to find out - it was part of a life-changing series of events that she was planning very carefully.
Four months into dating, he gets the 'I’m pregnant' talk. She’s going on and on about how the condom must have broke and now they really need to think about getting married “for the baby”. She’s positively giddy. She has a baby in her and she thinks she’s going to have a good meal ticket (him) to go along with her new 7lb annuity."
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2006-12-24 05:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should deal with her anymore.
You're covering your end by using a condom, but do you know for sure that she's covering hers?
Don't take a chance and try to stop having sex with her. If she gets upset, let her know that you aren't ready for parenthood.
If she gets upset over that, then she's one of those crazy types that want to get knocked up no matter what the circumstances.
In that case, I say "RUN!"
2006-12-24 06:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by neserit_luncast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Freaking break up with her. She is crazy. If you want to like her, don't know why you would, but talk to her about what you want. But stay away from her. She might be using you to get herself pregnant. Do you want to be trapped in a relationship, cause you can't afford any child support?
2006-12-24 05:33:01 · answer #3 · answered by Donovan G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These guys out here! So gullible... One of the oldest tricks in the book, if there was one(maybe there is). The girl is throwing that out as a test, you are failing the test. Strange, I never had any try it more than once. If you change your attitude, and claim your "fatherhood" she might stay with you, otherwise she is fishing for a reason to replace you with someone else, probably some one already in line... Be careful if you want to keep her. If it were me, I lose her. She is into being in control and playing games with you.
2006-12-24 05:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by Road 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep an eye on your condoms, she may be poking holes in them to try to trap you in. If she is on birth control AND you use condoms the odds are VERY slim that she would get pregnant. RUN!!!! RUN very fast..........Before you end up a father by suprise.
2006-12-24 06:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by CuriousMishawaka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The exact same thing happened to me.
She said she was using contraceptives but I found out she wasn't.
I dumped her. Best thing I ever did.
Women who behave like this are known as 'sperm bandits'.
2006-12-24 05:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by Panama Jack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know girls like this. Honey you need to dump her. Get away. She will make it happen if she wants it as bad as it sounds like she does. I've seen it happen. You seem nice, get out while you can.
2006-12-24 05:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop having sex with her, ask to see the birth control, and always check the condom for leaks after sex. (Sure, it's not sexy, but it's responsible). Also, make sure you provide your own condoms, as she can make a hole in it, if she provides them.
2006-12-24 05:36:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about this and if you don't think what she is saying adds up meaning it really was just a totally unplanned close call then leave her or marry her. if you don't leave then marry her and give up .
2006-12-24 05:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell here it's bugging you, If the dose not work make it so to not to be together.
2006-12-24 05:33:19 · answer #10 · answered by Emy~lou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋