Aren't really close. I mean, shes a great mom, like, she is nice, takes care of me, and everything, and is never abusive, and I am an okay kid, I don't do drugs, I'm good in school....well and we barely ever fight.....
Well we aren't close for some reason. I don't feel comfortable with her mosta the time...even though I am 12, and I have been with her for 12 years....(my whole life)
I don't get why we aren't close.
Does anyone have any suggestions why we might not be such a mother/daughter pair?
Thanks in advance.
2006-12-24 04:59:44 · 11 answers · asked by GROOVY LILY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ur just growing up. i'm kinda like that too. i'm almost 14 nd i never eat at the dinner table. i dont talk to my dad nd mom very much. when i do its only when i need things like money for lunch or sumthing for skool.sumtimes i wish that we were closer like how my friends and their parents but i dont mind very much. i wanna live my life the way i want it and i want to try nd do it by myself even though i'm young.
2006-12-24 05:08:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might have to do with your age. At 12, friends are very important, especially to girls and your Mom is probably trying to figure out how to be a friend to you but also maintain the authority of being a parent, it's probably a transition the both of you are going through. Instead of worrying why you aren't as close as you think some other mother/daughter pairs are, just be thankful for all the good things that you listed!
2006-12-24 13:05:28 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just an age thing right now - you're a kid and she's your mom. you don't feel comfortable because, to you, it seems that you have nothing in common, you can't relate to each other. trust me, as you get more involved in life and get a little older, you will get closer. you'll then realize what mom's are all about - you'll look to her for advice, and, sometimes, welcome it - while other times wondering why you asked. it just a mother/daughter thing. so don't worry about what you are feeling right now, it's natural - but, try a little more to open up to her, letting her know what you're thinking - and, you can even tell her - mom, i'm trying to tell you things about me, how about you telling me things about you. we are here for each other.
2006-12-24 13:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are very mature to realize this and want to do something about it. I suggest you find some type of activity you can do together. Maybe you can learn to line dance or take up a craft. it's hard to spend time trying to talk, but when you are busy with an activity you will naturally talk.
2006-12-24 13:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her about things in your life!
Ask her to go somewhere together, just you and her, even if it just out to lunch on a Sat.
Spend some one on one time with her! Ask advise on Boy Girl things that trouble you, problems at school or with friends, ect.
Tell her you love her and are so glad she is in your life to help guide you through it!
It worked with my Mother, and it worked with my Daughter and me, now it's working with her Daughter's!
Be friends, but always remember she is your Mother first, and always show her respect!
You won't regret it!!
2006-12-24 13:08:17 · answer #5 · answered by Susan H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now she is still trying to be your parent. As you grow older and confide in her she will become more of a parent/friend. My mom and I weren't close until I moved out of her house.
2006-12-24 13:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by unicornfarie1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don't have that close bond, even though they love each other very much.
I've never felt that at ease with my mum, even though I love her very much, and her me.
It may improve with age, but try not to worry about it :)
2006-12-24 13:03:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SPEND MORE TIME WITH EACH OTHER AND ASK QUESTION.. ASK.. ASK.. ASK..GET TO KNOW HER. AND SHE WILL GET TO KNOW YOU BELIEVE ME I HAVE 2 GROWN GIRLS AND SPENDING TIME TOGETHER REALLY HELPS SOME TIMES THE TIMES MIGHT SEEM BORING OR EVEN IF ITS JUST LISTING ITS GETTING TO KNOW ,WHICH IS GETTING CLOSE.. BEING TOGETHER IS VERY IMPORTANT.. SPEND MORE TIME ... YOUR MOM WILL LOVE IT.. TRUST ME.. AND YOU WILL GET CLOSE, MAYBE YOU BOTH ARE AFRAID OF EACH OTHER .. TAKE THE FIRST STEP AND GO OUT WITH YOUR MOM OR HELP HER FIX DINNER JUST SIT AND TALK IT REALLY WORKS AND YOUR MOM WILL LOVE IT..
2006-12-24 13:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by missy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bECAUSE YOU R TO0 GOOD SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO BE A LITTLE BAD AND SHE'LL WANT TO KNOW WHY YOUR DOING IT THEN YOU'LL START TALKING MORE
2006-12-24 13:13:25 · answer #9 · answered by Rakiya C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
holy crap your only 12....lets get real here...
2006-12-24 13:03:04 · answer #10 · answered by eonetiller 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋