ok so my best friend is going out with one of my old friends, i set them up and hes a great guy. were family friends so he comes over alot. i tell my friend this though and she says its ok. but last night at my familys christmas party we were in my room alone and it was kind of cold.. so we started cuddling. i'm not sure what this means. me and him love eachother, but not like that we've just known eachother for sooo long. i havent told my best friend. i'm not sure what it means. i mean we were just talking and he had his arm around me resting on my leg. just keeping me warm? i don't know. i diddent think much of it at the time but i look back on it and i'm not sure what it really ment. i looooove my best friend and i dont want her to think i was betraying her. i wasent... i mean we diddent kiss or anything this has never happend before eather. im not sure..
2006-12-24 04:56:03 · 31 answers · asked by Shelby 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, so stop it and get your own man (or dog if you are in that need of cuddling) I would slap you upside your head if you were my friend.....and don't get offended, you're the one who posted the queston.
2006-12-24 04:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by Go Away 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe there is more between you and this guy than you know. It sounds like there is an element of attraction. I don't think that there is anything wrong with it as long as it was innocent. But, it would be best if you didn't do it again.
See how he acts around you in the future. If you think he is coming on to you in any way, determine what you think you should do then. I have found that telling a friend when her boyfriend has hit on me is not always the best thing. If he does, tell him how you feel and then distance yourself from him.
2006-12-24 05:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two are probably a bit more attracted to each other than you know. From such a friendship came my first child many years back.
I think you already don't like the way you feel about this.
If they're both friends and they're a good couple together, it would be best not to cuddle with him.
I'm sure you meant nothing by it, but now is the best time to stop it.
Cuddling usually goes further before you know it. Think of your friend and her heart.
Best of luck!
2006-12-24 05:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, YES!!! thats not a good thing at all! if u were my friend, i would slapp u upside the head, and break the friendship. And i would beat the helll out of my boyfriend, and if he went crawling back to, even if u'd be happy, remember that u lost a best friend. That girl is right. U can't be offended cause ur the one that posted the question. Just telling the truth here. think of it like this... if ur boyfriend and ur best friend were 'cuddling' what would u do?hhmmm? make more sense now? good. don't do it again.
2006-12-24 05:02:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look point blank sweetie! I happen to have my not so good reputation but ill tell you this much ,thats a no'no dont do that! there are limits and boundaries that people shpuldnt cross!do it for your self ,because once the guy is done making an *** out of you he will brag about it treat you like **** and you will look worse than a dog !I know exactly how it is ,Ive done it my slf and I had to learn the hard way,baby girl it is the worse feeling ,you will regret it !keep your friends friend ship, it is much more beautiful.God bless you!
2006-12-24 05:07:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that you have a heart-to-heart conversation with her about it or you may lose a good friend. Even though he is a good family friend, He should NOT be in your bedroom without others present. This can lead to rumors that are unnecessary and harmful to your reputation. He may tell your friend about it before you do. I hope that everything works aout. Have a great Christmas!
Eds
2006-12-24 05:00:40 · answer #6 · answered by Eds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Shelby, it's really not proper. However, if you are only friends and it was just plain innocent, and your friend wasn't offended by it, I don't think it's a big deal, provided that the two of you don't make it a big deal. It really sounds like your feelings for him are a bit more than friends....and you are just starting to realize it.
2006-12-24 05:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if you found out she was cuddling with your man? And the reason you have not told her is because deep down you know you were wrong no matter what the situation. Now you are not sure because the lines are blurred. You have a real mess now with no easy way out.
2006-12-24 04:59:12 · answer #8 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen. You two are both kids, neither of you are married, it was a "convenience" thing. It's happened to ALL of us as kids, and well, probably adults, too. BUT, that doesn't mean she will be happy. Oh, she'll be pissed all right. Short term, probably bad. Long term, it will be one of MANY indiscretions you will get yourself into. A learning experience, let's say!
2006-12-24 05:15:09 · answer #9 · answered by Doug Church 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide on your feelings for this guy. If you want him, consider telling him, and if it's worth hurting your friend. Yes, what you did was bad, but you did not intend to do bad. If you don't want to further this, tell the guy and agree to say nothing more of it.
2006-12-24 04:59:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not cuddle with someone's boyfriend. Do not allow yourself into a position that could lead anywhere or that would make your friend uncomfortable. Even if you think it means nothing.
Just don't do it again.
2006-12-24 04:58:47 · answer #11 · answered by artimis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋