one of the managers at work doesnt like me at all,and it seems like he is trying to replace me with someone he likes,but the decision is not up to him,so he finds mistakes that i make and he sends emails to the bosses and supervisors,he doesnt say my name in the emails,but he knows that i read them since i am supposed to read my co workers emails to get important info to do my job,and he gives many hints that the person is me,like the person who worked in that position that day made this mistake,and etc...i was being trained at a new position but the person who was supposed to be training me wasnt there,so i was just waiting and doing nothing,so he came in my office and saw me,he was looking for something and couldnt find it but didnt bother to ask me if i knew where it was,i was on the comp reading emails,so a few hours later i got this email from him to all management about unproductive wasteful people who should be fired,it wasnt my fault that there was nobody there,should i quit?
2006-12-24 04:38:36 · 7 answers · asked by e_s_p 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You could quit, but it would be more better, if you could print out the offending memos, and document that you are the person referred to in them, and that he is harassing you needlessly. Show them to your HR people and get your explanation on record, before he goes forward with this.
2006-12-24 04:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I worked as a Television Director for many years. It was not productive to work with a crew member that didn't respect the term "Team Work". This person seems to lack that kind of persona. I have also encountered the guy below me trying to make me look bad so he could advance up the ladder.......sad that people can be that way but it's a very diverse world when dealing with personalities.
I hope prejudice does not play a role here......in any form.
My suggestion to you is to go over this persons head and state your case to the hierarchy. Make sure you have those e-mails and also explain that your productivity is being hindered by the situation.
Explain that you fear further intimidation from this person if it was known that you formally complained.......be careful and make sure you talk to the right person, someone who you feel will understand your situation.
Don't let this kind of person make you decide to leave your job!!!
2006-12-24 13:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by smitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
I aggree with what Beau R wrote.
Some other thoughts.
You said "One of the managers at work doesn't like me at all".
To me this means that there are other managers at work. Are you responsible to all of them? I hope not as it is difficult to have more than one boss to whom one is accountable to.
Are you just responsible to just one of them? Do the others like you and or feel that you have value?
If you have just one person to whom you are accountable to, ask them how they feel your performance at work is. If they tell you that you are doing a good job for the company and that all employees make mistakes, try to not worry about the manager that is giving you grief. I know that is easier said than done. It is only natural for us humans to be liked by people.
If you have the support of other managers and coworkers, come to a point where at least in your mind you can disreguard what the mangager that is causing you problems is doing and saying. If you do not have value to the other managers, then you may be fighting a losing battle.
What you do also depends on how much you like your job, how important it is to you personally to work there, how long you have been there, if you will loose retirement or other benefits, and how if is affecting you mentally which can also affect you physically.
I was in a similar situation. I am the mechanic for a city and one a councilman had it out for me. He said many untrue things about my performance. I was fortunate that I was valued by virtually all others and I had the support of my direct boss, the city manager, the police chief, the fire chief, and the rest of the city council. Never-the-less it hurt me personally for several months. I finally came to a point where what this guy said negatively to others about me no longer bothered me.
Incidentially this guy is now cordial to me. I don't know if it was a personality conflict, or that he saw that no one else would support him, or why he let it all go. While he has come and talked to me several times about issues relating to the city, he never brought up his running me down to others. We are now on friendly terms though I must admit I am keeping an eye on him.
I hope that something here will be of value to you in this situation.
Good luck
2006-12-24 13:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by Augie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends where you live but if your in canada there is a place you can go called "the workers advisory board" they are in almost every city and also you can contact the workplace ethics board..also in most citys..what he is doing is called harassment and it is not legal and you have rights my friend. Your company must have guide lines for this kind of stuff look into it and also contact the people above his head to see if there has been complaints made by employees in tha past..Your a person and you should not have to tolerate this kind of behavior no matter if he likes you or not.
2006-12-24 12:56:22 · answer #4 · answered by rcbrokebones 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you look for another job and get out of there. I have been working 4 years for someone who didn't like me and although she has turned around, it has taken a lot of work on my part. She didn't even know me and she didn't like me - very strange. Now she finally sees merit in me - but no amount of reasoning changed that, only time changed that. If you can find other work - I suggest find it and get out of there.
I also recommend that you learn to punctuate your sentences. This might be causing some of your trouble. Some people see that as a weakness. Remember that it is hard to read one sentence that is a paragragh long.
2006-12-24 13:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by Charlamaine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't quit. Document as much as you can, gather as much as you can in your defense and take it to management. Find out the agency in your city that handles work-related problems. In Michigan it is called EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission). Do you know why he doesn't like you? If it is race/gender/age, etc. I would contact a civil rights agency. In Michigan it is called MDCR (Michigan Department of Civil Rights) which handles Federal civil rights cases.
2006-12-24 13:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront him about it. talk to HR. ask him what you need to do to be a better employee. if he keeps it up in a month of so, find something else. there is no point in working for someone who makes you miserable. many bosses suck...i'm sorry. this one sounds like a jerk.
2006-12-28 10:36:31 · answer #7 · answered by thisisawasteoftime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋