When and how - break up?

Question

Here I go. Getting it out. I am pissed off at boyfriend. I want to break up. Why?
- He has conversations with my sister but doesn’t seem to want to talk to me. My sister is way out of his league though.
- I am loosing time with my friends because I hang out with him.
- I want to concentrate more on my school-work and that would mean I would have almost no time to spend with him
- He makes me mad for no reason.
- He tells stuff he shouldn’t to my sister when he talks to her
- I don’t like him anymore.
I don’t want to lead him on. I know I should break up with him. We are on Christmas Vacation at the moment. So the only way I talk to him is through MSN chat. Anyway, we go back to school in 2 weeks. On the 8th of January. The thing is, I don’t want to leave it that long. I really don’t. So my questions are…

*When should I break up with him – during the break or the first day we get back?

*How should I say it?

- I am not allowed on the telephone otherwise I would do it on the phone

Answer 1

look u have to talk to him first tell him he should stop talk this stuff to ur sister and he should respect u more and respect ur time also
u have to study
if he listen to u and he really loves u then u can forgive him if he will stop
but if he didnt then break ur relation with him because u will loss everything with him
u have to gain urself back

Answer 2

hmm seems like you have a problem. If he's acting the way you say he is then maybe you should do it now and get it over with. Plus if you do it now, it will give him more time to think it through. You have to be absolutely sure that breaking up with him is what you want though, because if you do it and then figure out you want him back it will look really bad on you. How should you say it? Exactly how you just said it to the people that read your question. Tell him how he doesn't talk to you, you guy fight over everything, you need more time on your school work. That type of stuff, breaking up with someone is never easy. good luck and you might have to do it over the computer it wouldn't be the first time someone has.

Answer 3

Ok, how old are you not to be allowed on the telephone? Anyway, if you want to break up with him and your options are limited, then do it before the break. This will give him time to absorb the info. Just tell him that your feelings have changed and that you think it would be best to break up. You can say that you still care about him, but that you are not being true to yourself or him if you continue this relationship. You don't have to get into any details and if he asks you if it's someone else, then deny it, no matter if it's true or not. Breaking up with someone is never easy, but it will feel like a huge weight lifted. Good Luck and Happy Holidays..

Answer 4

DO IT TODAY! The more time between now and the time you will see him again the better for both of you.

IT IS GOING TO BE AWKWARD AND PAINFUL FOR BOTH OF YOU--no way around it, so don't worry about that

Tell him that at this point in your lives you are doing more harm to each other than good. It isn't fair to either of you to go on ignoring your responsibilities--to your education, your family, your dog, (whatever-blah blah blah)

Tell him you care about him a lot and want the best for him, and you would hope that he wants what is best for you. Your time together was wonderful, you learned a lot, you had a lot of fun, (blah blah blah whatever...)

There will be a time in both your lives when such an intense relationship is appropriate and healthy--(when you have more time, when you are older, when you live closer, when they invent flying cars, etc etc)

Tell him you'll always consider him a great friend, but that it has to be really, really over in order for you to meet the goals you have set for yourself, to prepare yourself for a happy and successful future.

Well, that's what I would say. Good luck!

Answer 5

There is no good way or good time to break up. You just have to do it. Remember that guys sometimes act like jerks because they do have the courage to break up with you! If you have no phone access, and he is aware of this, then go ahead and tell him via email. You are very young, so you do not need to give a long winded explanation of why. Do not waste your energy fighting. Just say that it is not working out.

Answer 6

Well you did a pretty good job of what your reasons are here. Just relay the same things to him. When should you break up with him? Well that has to be your choice but no matter when you do it, it will be some ill feelings so any time is actually pertinent. How about waiting til one day this coming week.

Answer 7

You break up with him now immediately at this moment you read this message. Just throw him out of your mind and heart. Throw away any gifts that he has given you. You just have to think he is a stranger when you see him on the first day of school. It is all over honey. Start concentrating on your studies and prove it your parents that you are the smarter kid in the family. God Bless You.

Answer 8

Break up as soon as possible. Just be direct and honest. You don't need to go into so much detail. Tell him you don't feel the same as you did before and you no longer want to be with him. If he presses for more details then you can start naming some things off your list. It's best and kindest to keep it simple, hurting him the least. (even when tempted to hurt him more)

Be clear, direct, leave no options for getting back together and do it as soon as you possibly can.

Answer 9

You should tell him all the problems you have about him on the msn chat. Trust me, it's way easier breaking up online than in person. If you breaking up with him face to face, it's much harder

Answer 10

Avoid the hell out of him. Avoid him so totally that he knows and feels beyond any doubt that he is shunned by you. Refuse his calls. This will do one great thing: Shock him into thinking about life minus you. He may come running and begging to you for attention. Or he may give up and get on with his life. The strength of how much he cares for you will become apparent, however, from this experiment.

Do it clean.