why we loose our temper even though we know it will heart others as well as our self.?

Answer 1

Because we are only humans, we are not perfect. We say many mean things and act in a mean way, when we feel hurt, or just angry. We say mean things to those who we love, but who hurt us in some way, to convince them, that we are ok and we can be mean too, but after, we sit with our heads in our palms, feeling even worse, cause not only we got hurt, but also someone we love did too.

Answer 2

A loss of temper is a loss of yourself and a terrible liability and weakness. The easy answer is we don't think. We can blame it on stress or pressure or jobs/kids/parents/school/jobs/life/etc.. But for me it as simple as this. I am in control of my life, it is the result entirely of choices I have made. It is never at the mercy of my friends or family or strangers on the street. Not the police, not the ex., not the lady writing a check in the line at the grocery store, or the person who wants to pay for a carton of cigarettes with pennies and food stamps in the express line when I am late for work. Now if I choose to lose my temper with myself that's OK*smiling*. But if I loose my temper or get angry at all of the bad luck or terrible timing then I am allowing those things to take charge and control life. And that's just silly. There is no bad luck or timing, just my bad choices. Cut out the middle men and women.....you will find you loose your temper a Lil less often when your are the person in charge. Be well.

Answer 3

Temper is just like a power keg inside our bodies, which may turn into big explosion by just a fuse of simple or small reasons.
Often, we become angry because we don’t get our ways. We have not learnt the art of allowing, tolerating, accommodating and accepting differences in views, values, mannerisms and perspectives. But, the ultimate objective of all forms of anger is to try to control the behavior of the other person. We use anger to intimidate, manipulate and subdue the other person.

Answer 4

when we lose our temper we dont feel it will hurt others . but later we realize our mistake . temper is something that cannot be controlled even though some people say we should count from 1 to 10 which it doesnt work

Answer 5

It is a life-long task to gain control of the bad temper

Answer 6

Dear Vikas, Almost I am the same like you, losing temper and regreats to hurt others.
When we do somthng for someone with our best of efforts and we dont feel acknodleged after that. We lose temper, no body realize how much WE hurt ourself.

Answer 7

I it is happening now, it is Holiday stress.

If it always happens it could be that you need anger mangement, teaches you how to control out bursts of anger.
Also it will teach you how release anger into a postive action or let it go.
Anger it self is not bad just when it is not controled.

Bottled up anger can hurt you in, causing a rise in blood presure and heart rate.

Answer 8

loosing our temper is something we don't want to do but we do it because it's hard to control, if you want to control your temper you should count till ten before you say anything, try changing your position or place, splash water on your face, take a walk or listening to music these things will help you controll your temper.

Answer 9

Temper is always an engine of control---the louder, meaner someone becomes---you can bet they don't feel much in control of anything.

Temper hasn't anything really to do with the emotion of anger. They relate, sure---because anger-as-aggression (temper) is the easiest way to try and quickly regain control.

Answer 10

losing your temper is a choice you make. you will notice times you have held your temper when you could have not, like when someone you respect very much did something that would have normally caused you to blow. it can be controlled best by telling ourselves in our heads an excuse for them, like when Jesus was on the cross he said "Father , forgive them, for they know not what they do." we must take responsibility for our actions.