So I have been In a long distance realtionship with this girl for about 5 months. I came home one time and noticed a little tiny red mark/patch on the back of her neck.....ignored it....same home the next time and it was gone....came home again. and she had one on the front of her neck....i asked her what it was and she didn't know what i was talking about until she looked in the mirror and she said she didn't know what it was....she said she thinks it is a birthmark....so i come back again...and it is gone..I ask her what happend to it and she said she didn't know. I kindly asked her if she was cheating on me and she said "ya right'..."why would i do that?"....I just left it at that...and wrote her a letter about being honest with me. She really doesn't seem like she would cheat on me, she hasn't acted any different;y towards me and still always wants to see me.
2006-12-24 03:51:12 · 12 answers · asked by George G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When in a long distance relationship even more so than when you are both close the most important factor for success is trust. Without trust there is no relationship. If things between you are still the same then for goodness sake lighten up after all a five month relationship is still a very new one. By the way you don't say how old you are as this paranoia is normally something that the more immature suffer from or those who have been really hurt in the past. Happy Christmas and relax and go with the flow.
2006-12-24 04:08:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must admit that this one is a tricky one.
The fact that she loves you and wants to be with you is not a sign that she isn't cheating on you.
She may well be, but where with whoever she could be doing it is just for sex, because you're not available, with you it's deeper.
I know it's a poor consolation, but it is just a possibility.
I must say that those marks on the neck would worry me too.
And her answer as well.
You may want to try and drop by a day to make her a lovely surprise.
I think that you don't want to throw accusations around, but if you are losing sleep over it, then you have to get to the bottom of it and either have a proper discussion with your girlfriend and ask the difficult questions, or do some detective job yourself.
I don't think you are being paranoid, or silly. Anybody would do feel the same.
2006-12-24 12:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, a long distance relationship is a joke. The majority of them never make it. Now, I said the "majority", for all of those that do make it. Another thing...birthmarks don't spontaneously move?? and most ppl know where theirs is without looking in the mirror. Dude don't be a doormat...its time to move on.
2006-12-24 11:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by kastlelvr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe her birthmark is mobile ....
don't listen to thes girls on here ... what do you expect from a long distance relationship ...
if this was a girl saying this about a guy .. the responses would be different...
...and to the honest girls ... well done
Dr bad
in the xmas spirit ... obviously
2006-12-24 12:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
with permission fro the ladeis.eve cheat adam.all women like to cheat depending.on many aspect
you are not the only one
accept it or look around for same.all are equal.exept my mother
it circulate in the blood
2006-12-24 11:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by kabbara m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really trust her than leave it at that and stay with her. If you keep thinking she is cheating on you then leave her. How can you have a healthy relationship if you don't trust someone.
2006-12-24 11:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by Je t'aime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if in doubt try not to assume the worst,,it will eat at you,,she may suffer rashes,,she may have been scratching,,it could have been anything,,,,at the end of the day you must know what a 'lovebite' looks like so you be the judge but remember,,just because you think you know what it is doesnt necessarily make it so...............................
2006-12-24 11:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i really think you are so give her the benefit of the doubt but if you see it again then she's not taken any notice of your letter
2006-12-24 11:56:08 · answer #8 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is all ways that part i don't know what you are talking about yes she is cheating on you but she don't want to hurt you maybe she Du want to be with you but you are to far away to give her what she wants you cant blame your self if you cant handle it move on
2006-12-24 12:03:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
kind of sounds a bit suspect but be careful as there might be an explanation
2006-12-24 12:00:42 · answer #10 · answered by groundhog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋