My son is 14 and although he is a good lad - doesn't cause any trouble and is polite to others doing ok at school. He is so moody at home spends lots of time in his room on his computer or he is out with friends.
He doesn't seem bothered about his family at all and never wants to help out or join in anything. Is this normal? Will it ever get better?
2006-12-24 03:33:19 · 34 answers · asked by mistyblue 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
These are all great answers I feel much better already.
Most of my friends have got 10-12 year old children so I have no one to share the teenage experience with.
I was an only child and always got on ok with my parents.
2006-12-24 03:47:26 · update #1
Adolescense is a very difficult time for both the teen and his parents. But eventually there will be light at the end of the tunnel and your teen will be a human being again who enjoys your company. This will probably happen when he is in his 20s.
Right now, his brain is going through some fascinating changes. There has been a lot of interesting brain development studies done lately. I recommend you look them up; it will help you understand why your teen is so moody, sleep patterns are different, and is possibly making poorer judgements now than he was a few years ago.
Check out this PBS show: Frontline - The Teenage Brain. This came out a few years ago, but it is still very relavant and interesting. ( http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/teenbrain/work/adolescent.html)
Note the study where children and teens were asked to identify the emotions depicted in facial expressions. Younger kids were more likely to correctly interpret the expression. Teens were more likely to identify the emotion as anger or sadness...interesting, eh?
good luck!
2006-12-24 03:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by krinkn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They grow into uncommunicative husbands..........smile
He still is not old enough to make decisions when it comes to family gatherings. When you have family gatherings, he still has to come even if it means he has to sit there and pout. I went through this with my now 18 year old and this year we actually laughed about the times he did not want to go on family outings and I told him that he looked like he was actually having fun and he told me that he only smiled at the outings because of me.
Nevertheless, he went, I believed he had fun, and we have memories together about it.
P.S. Before we left, I we would come to an agreement with time of how long the outing would last, normally 2 hours, which I made sure we stuck with. However, most of the time with my son's approval, we stayed longer.
He is now 18, and we are about to visit my sister's house who has 8 kids. He helped me wrap gifts and is now pouting about having to stay for 2 hours. All the kids are under 11 years old. I go through this every year and it hurts but I stay strong knowing that after I will have pictures of fun, family memories, and hopefully one day when he is 45 and I am 73, he will tell me again that he smiled because of me.
Merry Christmas and Best of Luck !
2006-12-24 03:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-28 07:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is just the same! BUT he is polite when he's out, so as far as i'm concerned that's good enough. He'll grow out've the moodyness, & become a lovely young man, just bear with it luv, we're all in the same boat. Happy Christmas
2006-12-24 03:40:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is sooo normal! friends and social life are pretty much what a teenager's life revolves around right now. just because he spends more time without you doesn't mean he doesn't care about you, he just has more on his mind right now because this is a big time in his life where he may need his friends more for a while. i should know, i'm 14 too.
2006-12-24 03:38:56 · answer #5 · answered by Surfergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it's any consolation to you, my 14 year old daughter acts the exact same way - except for the whole causing trouble part....she does that too. I remember being quite difficult myself and as far as I know, I outgrew it. :) Although going thru it now is really awful!!
2006-12-24 03:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by Chula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up with a lot of boys in my family so i see the moods pass and go and eventually they grow out of it but a little part of it will always be with them.
2006-12-24 03:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he will grow out of it-one day he will be a moody, uncommunicative MAN.
2006-12-24 03:35:44 · answer #8 · answered by Chico 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes hun, it's being a teen,my son is 15 and he went through that stage sometimes I didn't recognise him,but lately he has gone back to his old self.
2006-12-24 03:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol ... well yes i get that am a teenage girl ... just try to spend some time get him tickets to something he wants to do and put your feet down.... ground him....he cant be out with his friends all the time ... like in my family my parents got set days for family days that we have to all be in and join in the choirs around the house... just ground him or stop the money always works:D
2006-12-24 06:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by lady kia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋