do guys get over break ups quicker then women? When my BF and I last spoke he said I had ruined his life, he said he would wait for me forever and love me for ever ,(I didn't really expect him to) , I won't go into details but there was another woman who made certain claims,emails and pictures(he says are fake).But only 3 days later he was on Myspace declaring he was single and dating ......it's been 8 days and I haven't been able to get out of bed or get dressed or brush my hair, the thought of him makes me cry (like now) and I don't know what I am going to do without him.Do guys move on quicker,or did he just mean more to me then I did to him?
2006-12-24 03:22:59 · 18 answers · asked by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some guy's do move on faster, But only if their are no children involved. But if you are b/f and g/f and your relationship didn't start out of friendship, Then both men and women usually find it easier to move on with their lives. I have had a lot of women in and out of my life for the past 25 or 30 years. But I know now that I have found my true love, Who is my wife now and we have two beautiful daughters. But my wife is my best friend. Even before we married each other we where. And still to this very day. What I am trying to say to you is, If your b/f is your best friend, and your lover, And maybe one day he just might be your husband. Then girlfriend you should let him know. Just start over by asking him out on a date. I know women think this is crazy, But sometimes men would like for a woman to step up and tell us what she really wants from her man.
2006-12-24 03:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by omegarussell42 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not a man but I have noticed this too. They really seem to get over things so much faster than us. I think it has a lot to do with appearances. Girls are more open with how they feel and guys will try to hide it. But some guys certainly do take break ups seriously and are hurt for a long time. (We just might not be able to tell)
Don't take it to mean that you cared more than him. He may be hurting a lot and trying not to show it. (you can't see what is going on all the time.) Besides, at this point that kind of thinking will only make you feel worse. It is good to try to concentrate on what is now rather than what was. (how he felt or didn't feel isn't as improtant as how you feel now and how to help you heal.)
I hope things get easier, good luck.
2006-12-24 11:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he had another girl from wherever it enabled him to deferr his feelings. The best thing for a broken heart is a new love. It takes away all the focus of the other person. It may not be the healtiest, but it works. What doesn't work is laying around in isolation feeling miserable as those dark feelings compund. Ur a very pretty girl, get out and find someone else, or just get out and be around other people. It may be hard, but you have to do it. Good Luck
2006-12-24 11:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by NIGHTSHADE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Sherry
We are all wired so differently and act accordingly. True love lost always hurts the one that cares the most. I heard a long time ago that one person in a relationship almost always care more than the other, and my own history seems to bear that out.
I think guys can feel just as lonely if they did care, but healthy males feeling lonely do not take long to feel horny and will try and fill that void, how long they wait i guess depends on how broke up they really were.
I do not understand though he makes it sound like you left and ruined him and yet you are the one hurting?
Take care Mike
2006-12-24 12:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by canoratrick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a male an average of 6 months to get over a woman if he was in a truly loving relationship. He will hook up with someone quickly if he feels it ended unjustly or if he was not 100% dedicated to start. Moreover, guys to try to find the the rebound girl a lot quicker than woman try to find the rebound guy.
It takes a female an average of 12 months.
It does seem he meant more to you then you did to him.
2006-12-24 11:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man that is what I am we get over things faster because I look at it like this if something is broken fix it .So to give you a little advice move on and your life will be even better than before
2006-12-24 15:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by slp9209 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but I'd never try to make someone feel guilty by telling them they'd ruined my life, that's just inconsiderate. My ex hurt me bad when she broke it off but I kept all of it inside and eventuallly the pain went away. The more you feed it the worse it gets, "gasoline on the fire",lol.
2006-12-24 11:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its been 8 months and i haven't got over my ex. I cannot go on a date with another girl b/c i still love my ex but i'm not in love with her. Put it this way, last month i was having sex with another girl and i though i say my ex's face on this other girl. Freak the hell at of me so i had to stop. But i never told this other girl.
2006-12-24 11:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing with your emotion. He's a selfish bastard wanted to make sure you get hurt. He said those nice things to make you open your heart then stab you there one final big one. Now that you're the one who got hurt, not him. He has succeed.
2006-12-24 11:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All people are different, both men and women in the way they love and how deeply the love is felt.
2006-12-24 11:30:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋