I was 14 and I was in 10th standard, I used to study most of the time, and my mother used to beat me up with shoes, brooms anything she could find,and she used to starve me, sometimes for upto days,I was a shy and quiet kid,not rebellious as I am today, can I be blamed, if I feel bitterness against my mother sometimes?
2006-12-24 02:42:26 · 11 answers · asked by virgodoll 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am over it, but when we talk about it she pretends that it never happened, it angers me very much
2006-12-24 02:49:25 · update #1
I know exactly how it feels to resent your mother and always wonder how different your life would be if she wasn't the kind of mother she was, but I'm here to tell you that what we go through in life makes us, builds our character. Don't you dare blame yourself for your mother not knowing how to be a mother. That's her problem and she will pay or maybe has already paid for the way she abused you. What you have to do is to the bigger person, forgive her for not knowing how to be a good mother and try to form a respectful, loving relationship with her. You will feel so much better and your life will be better if you just forgive and let go of the past. Good luck and Merry Christmas!
2006-12-24 04:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by Butterfly 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had the same problem, but my mum never starve me though. In my culture, it's part of growing up (being hit by parents). But now that I'm older, I realised that their teaching method is wrong. It was their way of making me to be obedient, and listen to them, but they used the wrong technique. This is something I will not pass on to my children. There's no point for you to dig up the past because you already know she will not remember it or simply ignore it like it never happened before. As hard as it may seem, you need to move on and not look behind. You can bring the horse to the river, but you can not make it to drink. Everyone is stuck to their own rights and mentality, and only they themselves can change it.
2006-12-24 03:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to get beat by my mom too. listen, you can blame her for everything all your life, but trust me, it won't make anything better for you. When i talked to her about when we were older she apologized and i moved on. We now have a great relationship. i can't promise you that your mom will do the same, but i can promise you that you don't really ever move on in life untill you stop blaming people for the way you are. That doesn't mean to forget it, but instead learn from it.
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2006-12-24 02:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by Puzzeled 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say that sometimes, as parents, we take the frustrations in our own lives out on our children.
I found it in my heart to forgive my mom, thankfully, my children forgave me.
I told them to do a better job than I did and make improvements. They have and jet, I see my children making some to the same mistakes I did.
So, do your best to improve yourself as a parent, try to remember how your folks disciplined you when you did that and adjust your discipline.
Children need guidance, sometimes that means discipline, not server punishment.
You do not want children growing up feeling that they can commit any crime without consequences. The jails are full of them.
2006-12-24 02:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by Here I Am 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course not.... if she beat u up just because u didnt do housework is ridiculous... it is child abuse...
there are four aspects of child rights, and one of them is the right to be protected, and ur mum didnt protect, instead beat u...
but on the other hand, maybe she is moody, because of several reasons perhaps? like worried abt you, as most problems tend to occur during teenage years...
its ok to feel this way, why not tell her how you feel? maybe she has her reasons, you are curious about the reasons too, right?
2006-12-24 02:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She either does not remember what she did or does not care. So why should you have to walk around all bitter. Forget it and move on. No one says you have to be best friends or even spend time with her.
2006-12-24 02:48:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
some things in life you will never forget. but something must have happened to your mother when she was young. to make her do this to you. just try to forgive her, even though i know it is hard.
2006-12-24 02:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by foxy_lady695 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your mom have some sort of psycho problem?. No you cannot be blamed for this, but maybe you can pity her.
2006-12-24 02:48:45 · answer #8 · answered by ANU U 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no your not to be blamed she wasnt a proper mom..and i would be angry too but remember even after she did all those things she is still your mother....:-)
2006-12-24 03:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not be blamed at all for what your mother did to you.
2006-12-24 02:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋