My future mother-in-law is the most frightening person I have ever met, she is rude and impatient and treats my poor little fiance and I like naughty children (he's 24), she never knocks before letting herself into our flat (she is the landlady so has keys) and we just hear this screech up the stairs that she's arrived, and I am actually starting to think I can hear her voice, even at my parents house or shopping, and I think I'm going mad!!!
How on earth do people cope with mother-in-laws?
2006-12-24 02:40:03 · 18 answers · asked by floppity 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i had one of them....it was horrendous....first you must tell her to knock when she visits...just because she is the landlady, does not give her the rights to go into your place without your permission, you pay the rent, therefore she must knock and stop using your key, change the locks if need be and tell her that she's invading your privicy... tell her that you are both adults and start talking to you like adults, if she is rude to you...be rude back, treat her like she treats you....if she's like this now, imagine what she'll be like when your married with kids...nip it in the bud now before she gets worse...let her know where she stands...., trust me, once your married, she will get worse
2006-12-24 10:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 23:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by banowski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I did is I got my husband to talk to his parents that they cannot be intruding into our lives, what your mother in law is doing is trying to show you who is in charge here, and it isn't you, because she is free to walk in onto your home and everything, tell your husband to talk to her, not you hes the one with her blood he deals with her, she needs to understand that you and him are adults, and that soon you will be married, and so she needs to get used to the idea of not coming in so much, uninvited. I also suggest you guys move out to reduce the risk of a confrontation in the future. Good luck and if you need to ever vent or need support I have attached a website for you to go to.
2006-12-24 05:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by Summer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had but now I only visit her once a year on Mother's Day. I bring her flowers, well actually I just borrow them from the next grave over!
2006-12-24 03:16:54 · answer #4 · answered by angrycelt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh poor you.
It does remind me of my ex mother in law.
Ex because her constant interference drove me to divorce my husband.
If you don't want that to happen to you, do something about it RIGHT now, and DO talk about it to your fiance, ask him to react.
The best would be for you to move away from her, if not, you need to change the locks, and make it clear that she's not to let herself in!!!
Honestly, do something about it NOW.
Good luck.
2006-12-24 02:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by Kc 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mines is a complete pain in the a.rse as well.................. i avoid the woman like the plague.......i have to go visit on boxing day and i could cry at the thought of it..........i would do ANYTHING to get out of it but can't think of anything apart from being totally honest and then i would hurt my husbands feelings and put him an awkward postition............i'm praying for snow...then we wouldn't be able to go if we were snowed in..
I live in hope xx
2006-12-24 02:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by tinkerbell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at the controlling pattern;
She has you living on her property, so she's keeping you close.
So.. move.
I solved our problem by putting over a thousand miles (moved from New Jersey to Michigan) between us. NO REGRETS
Don't know why I put up with it as long as I did.
2006-12-24 03:26:21 · answer #7 · answered by medic_7083 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find time and do the unthinkable;you need to get closer to her.Latter make it in a very polite way to her that her intrusive behaviour is a real border to you.Finally make sure you behave maturely and responsibly anytime she is around.Good luck.
2006-12-24 02:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by sametefe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"my poor little fiance and I like naughty children"
You speak as if he is a child.
I would say move out and get some distance between you.
She will always be his Mom, and always be in his life, but you may not always be his girlfriend or his wife.
If you love him, you have got to find a way to deal with her.
2006-12-24 02:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by Nanny2Kara 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Oh yes there was once in my life it was a fire breathing dragon
and it kidnapped my son 15 years ago to Canada and i have never seen or heard from him since.
i wonder what he is like now.
2006-12-24 03:36:43 · answer #10 · answered by arthur3home 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋