your aunt did not visit you for the festive seasons?
she is my mom's younger sister. i feel very sad for my mom(eldest) coz the two and family of dem did not come over to visit .
coz our culture is like the younger sister will visit the older ones 1st.. this has been going on for 4 years.. my mom wonders what did she do wrong. almost all the other 2 years my family visited them 1st like thinking ok nothing wrong to visit ..
the thing (i found out) is one cousin of mine has a caucasian boyfriend (we are south east asian) and imagine brought him along with my aunts family to visit every other relative except of us.. its like saying my family is too poor to introduce..
i can feel that my mom is crying silently... but she say its ok and giving all sorts of reason to cover them when i asked..
what should i do ..
2006-12-24 02:33:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
AS LONG AS U & UR MUM HAVE EACH OTHER EVERYTHING'S GONNA BE OK.AS 4 AUNT SHE DOESN'T DESERVE A FAMILY LIKE YOURS.JUST CHEER UR MUM UP .HONEY SHOW THEM ARROGANT PEOPLE THAT THEY'RE NOT BETTER THAN YOUR FAMILY AND YOU'VE GOT SOMETHING THEY WILL NEVER HAVE WHICH IS LOYALTY & A FAMILY.TELL UR MOM SHE'S ALWAYS GOT U SO SHE SHUD DITCH PEOPLE WHO DON'T RESPECT HER.
2006-12-24 02:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by MAIME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could drop a card in the mail saying you would really like to see her and her family come for a visit (anytime) and how it would mean so much to you and your mother. If she doesn't respond or gives excuses move on, there is probably a reason why she avoids visiting.
Money has nothing to do with visiting the ones you love, it's all about getting together and enjoying each others company.
There is no use losing sleep over someone who can't take the time to visit family. These people are the ones who are missing out and will regret it one day. Good luck.
2006-12-24 11:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi yes i might be a little hurt. But there is 2 sides on a coin. If ur aunt has a husband they may need to visit his family ...or w/ shopping & all involved w/ holidays people run out of time maybe she should come over day or so after festive seasons. I don't understand asian culture but I understand love & paitence.
2006-12-24 10:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by Dotr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is nothing you can control. Trust me I am living it and if you have a family like me they hold a grudge and won't let go. Whatever happened to family first? You can send a note or just stay out of it and be there for your mom.
2006-12-24 10:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell your aunt and cousin.. if they judge you by wealth screw them they have shown their integrity and values... you are def better off w.o money lovers
2006-12-24 10:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋