just lost my oldest child oct 27
she was 34
2006-12-24 02:28:18 · 14 answers · asked by john w 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
We Mourn our children and all family when we lose them. We cry and pray but mostly we feel a big hole in our lives, an emptiness. That place where the child stood is empty. Time, they say, heals that sense of loss but I have yet to discover that healing. A piece of our soul is gone and it hurts.
We think back on the beautiful smiles and words and no matter how hard we try to get beyond that emptiness.
I miss her hugs and her calling "daddy daddy daddy" as she would run in excitedly from school.
My Daughter was 7 when I lost her. It's been ten years.
Spread her love for her. Remember her and hold love for her.
Don't give in to the sadness and stay strong for yourself and other family members. Take your own time to mourn her and let the tears come when you need to cry. Each year does get better and time helps to a point. But there are always small reminders and photos that bring back the sadness and the loss. Just cry it out and keep plugging along.
En Tis Blethec
2006-12-24 02:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by tian_mon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved child. Those words sound so empty but I really am sorry. It has been almost two months for you and I'm sure you still wonder how the sun can shine in the sky when your heart is laying in pieces at your feet. How can people smile at you - don't they know you are in agony inside?
The loss of a loved one is a terrible thing. I am being very careful because I do not want to "wax providential," and I do not want to anger you but truly, you can see your beloved baby again. Right here on earth. Never to be taken from you again. That real hope can help you and fortify you. It will still hurt but you will cope. Such a sure hope will keep you from sorrowing as the rest do who have no hope. 1 Thessalonians 4:13.
Best regards to you.
Hannah
2006-12-24 10:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by Hannah J Paul 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for the passing of your daughter.
A person is never lost if they are kept alive in your thoughts and dreams. My mother passed in February and on her birthday I wished her a happy birthday. I always talked to my mother when I needed advise, and sometimes when I need advise now, I would imagine what she might say. I know it sounds funny, but I am not that crazy.
Take care and keep your daughters spirt alive by keeping her memory alive. Nothing will bring her back, but it may make you feel better to remember her and smile.
2006-12-24 10:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by Joel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss.
I don't know how parents cope with the loss of a child. I know my mother, who lost 3 children shortly after their births, was haunted by the loss the remainder of her life.
The one thought that a parent has to hold on to...and this is true in all cases of losing a loved one, is how would your child want you to go on?
Life goes on...in time, mostly you'll remember the love.
2006-12-24 10:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by mzJakes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to here of your lost. Her journey led her to the light that gives light. The emptiness and sorrow that is left behind with in ourselves. The dreams and thoughts we had of our children,desiring only the best for them. She has won her right to the true life. Look within the emptiness and sorrow and there you will find peace.
2006-12-24 10:42:51 · answer #5 · answered by guidedlight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One should grieve. One must try to continue your activities. Look for support from friends and local support groups. Read the articles linked below. If you identify where you are in the process, that information may help you move through the process. I wish you the best.
2006-12-24 10:39:20 · answer #6 · answered by david42 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You take day by day. Remember her in the good times. In time the grief will go away but her spirit never will.
I lost my sister 10 years ago - she was 44. Not a day goes by that I still don't think about her.
2006-12-24 10:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sage Bluestorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so, so sorry. May God bless you and keep you.
Lord in heaven, a wonderful soul has gone home to You. Welcome her into Your peace, Your eternal joy, free of all the pain and suffering of this world. She is one of Your special ones, basking in the love that is Your light. Lord, bless and bring peace and healing to her family and friends here. Comfort them in the knowledge that their loved one is safe and secure, and that the pain, the grief they feel now is very short. Strengthen and encourage them, Lord, for there is a joy awaiting them like nothing they can imagine. We ask and pray this through Christ, our Lord, amen.
2006-12-24 10:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by Danny H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so INCREDIBLY sorry to hear that. No one should have to outlive their child.
I honestly don't know how you deal, but if you need help, PLEASE seek it out. Whether that means, for you, a church leader, or a therapist, or just surrounding yourself with good friends, don't allow yourself to be all alone in this.
Most people cannot truly understand what kind of pain you must be feeling, but we ARE pulling for you. Once again, I am so sorry.
2006-12-24 10:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by Jennie Fabulous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew what to tell you. My cousin died in 1998. My aunt took years to begin to move on with her life. She even had to go to a counsellor for two years. My cousins room stayed exactly the same as it was the day she died for 5 years.
Honestly, eventually you move on. Its painful to lose the people we love and children are supposed to die after their parents so for a child to die first is even worse.
But move on you will. Eventually. You may like to consider professional help to learn to deal with it.
Time heals all wounds.
2006-12-24 10:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋