I have just got out my box of Christmas crackers ready for tomorrow.The box didn't quite look right.On closer inspection I discover that my 6 yr old son has twisted open every single one,removed the gift,hat and joke and then twisted them back together so they look the same on the outside.I am furious,I mean really out of proportion furious! Don't get me wrong I can see the humour in it,but after a year of unremmiting misery caused by this boy's behaviour it's just the last straw.Don't really want to do Christmas at all now.
2006-12-24 02:13:35 · 10 answers · asked by New Boots. 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have a suggestion for your enterprising young man. Have him collect replacement gifts to slide into the crackers as a lesson on consequences. This should be small things that he himself wants to part with. Remembering that Christmas isn't about getting but giving and that when we give of ourselves we are better off.
Every child acts out at one point or another. Being able to put the crackers back together so "perfectly" shows your son is gifted in the art if being mischievous. Be thankful that you discovered his surprise before setting the table.
As for the anger on your part, take a time out for yourself and remember that you yourself must have pulled a few tricks on your parents at one time or another. Slip a movie onto the TV for the kids and go take a shower to help you relax and collect your thoughts.
In the end you will have a funny story to share with his chosen partner on just how much of a prankster he could be when a child.
Above all else, please have yourself a Merry Christmas.
2006-12-24 02:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by sherryisfrenchcookie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to say this for him: He's Smart! If you hadn't looked really close you might not have noticed. He should have a punishment. Too late to spank, he won't get it. I'd make him "reverse" the process with gifts he helps you pick out. No one will notice since he is so good at the cover-up. Have a long, calm talk with him about how disappointed others would have been if they had opened them. I'd let him pass them out so he can see and enjoy everyone's reaction to the crackers. I know it is really hard when they act crazy. At least he didn't break anything and it can be fixed.
Merry Christmas, mom. Just keep saying - This too shall pass.
2006-12-24 03:03:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of 4 children, one in which is an 18 yr old son. He is no longer living with me and hasn't for about 4 years. You can do all you can to raise your children the best that you can, but sometimes they just don't turn out the right way. They make their own lives. They in turn ruin, and corrupt, and cause alot of pain and misery in the mothers heart, and also reek havoc on the other children. My sons behavior problems started when he was 6, we did everything possible, counseling, drugs. He did something unthinkable, and he is no longer in out lives. I suggest if you have been having problems with him for a year, you should have him checked out first by his Medical Doctor, and then seek help from a psychological point. My son was diagnosed with anti-social disorder but it was too late to help him. So please seek some help. Please, don't let them just tell you he is going thought a phase, we were told that for years. You know your own child better than anyone else, so DONT let them think they know better. Trust me they will try. I do love my son, but I can't help him. I hope this helped. Lastly to answer your question; sounds like you are very tired of dealing with an unruly child, and you are frustrated with his behavior and that frustration comes from NOT knowing whats going on with him, and you know you love him and have done all you know as a parent. So now all the little things are going to cause you to snap. It really sounds like you need some help sweetie. The little things are just going to continue to build up.
2006-12-24 02:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by kastlelvr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is always the little things that pushes you over the edge because you have accumulated them throughout the year - "after a year of remmiting misery caused by this boy's behaviour it's just the last straw." Be conscious of this accumulation and try to dissipate the miseries as and when they are least likely to "push you over the edge". I sincerely believe you will not feel so stressed up then. Have a Merry Christmas!
2006-12-24 02:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by Alfretz T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The straw that broke the camel[apostrophe]s back, as we used to say, eh?
The fact is, misbehavior IS cumulative on the nerves of the parents, especially when they are over-worked in part to make a great Christmas for their kids. But as you say, there was a funny side, and after you cooled down you could probably see it. It was the entire bale of straw, not just that one piece.
Unremitting misery? Never a cute moment? Never a little arm thrust around your neck with "I love you, Mommy!" Never a moment when you said raising a bright kid is indeed harder than raising a dull one, but I really am proud of my smart little boy.
He will learn good manners if you simply do not give up. Tell him twenty times, if necessary, what is not appropriate for a little gentleman, but persist that you want him to be a little gentleman.
2006-12-24 02:26:23 · answer #5 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good grief, can I sympathise with you right now!
I threaten to not do Christmas at least once a day, every day in December, every year.
Hang in there honey!
Ooh! Just thought of a good thing to do: make your son pose for a photo holding the crackers. My aunt taught me to do that and it helps you [me anyway] to release the anger until some future date.... by then, it'll be a funny family legend. [And your son WILL feel suitable embarassment right now.]
2006-12-24 03:15:44 · answer #6 · answered by LisaFlorida 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-28 07:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath. Find someone to watch your boy and go for a walk. Unwind. It's Christmas and you deserve to have a great one. Vent online or to a friend. Then try to enjoy your family. You, yourself, stated that you are disproportionately mad about it. Find all the happiness inside of you and bring it out. Happy holidays.
2006-12-24 02:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give him a hug even if you don't feel like it....that will calm both of you.... i know it's sound stupid but it worth a try..
If you don't want to do Christmas don't do it....you can do it later...if you want.....
Take care
2006-12-24 02:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by megalura 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You weren't ready to have kids.
2006-12-24 02:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋