Question for stay-at-home moms?

Question

I have no children as of yet but I plan on having a family in another few years or so. I don't want to be a working mom, I know that I want to be a stay-at-home mom and see my kids grow every step of the way. Can you tell me how you like being a full-time mother? And do you ever get time to yourself? Maybe when the kids are asleep?

Answer 1

I have 5 kids and I have been a home mom for at least 4 years. It has it's good days and it's bad days. I actualyy learn alot from them. They are so much fun especially some of the things they think and say. I do work part time in the evenings when my husband gets home. I have learned how to be patient and to still smile in public while being embarrased at times. We go to the park, shopping, watch movies, and play games. 3 of mine are in school 4th grade -3rd grade- and 2nd grade the other 2 are 31/2 and 21/2. Ilove them!!! No more though they do get spendy but we do it on our own and we are proud of that. We have a nice big house with a huge back yard and yes 1 cat. When they all go to school here soon I will work more and still take and drop them off to school. They grow so fast enjoy it while you can because soon they will be wanting to go on there own and be with friends and do their own things. Best of luck!! Yes I do get time to myself not alot but enough. When you decide to have kids you won't think so much about that, I enjoy taking my kids with me they make it fun and never a dull moment.

Answer 2

If you intend to be a stay-at-home mom, you have to have 100% support from your husband. It will also help to have back-up when you need it (try to cultivate a habit of having a night out with hubby once in a while, you won't regret it - We didn't and I feel that we have lost touch with each other's hopes and feelings.). Being a mom is a 24/7 job - you can't even go to the loo without a little voice asking you what mommy's doing in there. Forget about spending time on body and facial scrubs, masks or conditioning your hair - lol - the simpler and faster the better - 2in1 or 3in1 shampoo and shower creme, for the first few years. Discuss and plan with hubby how you want to bring up the kids - disciplining style, education, ambition etc. Once you have all these in place, parenting will be much more enjoyable. My kids are 71/2 and 6 now (Year 2 and Year 1 in 2007) and yes, when they are asleep, it is my time. I set their bedtime at latest 9.30pm so that they will have enough sleep (better growth and healthier) and so that I can have some time for myself and hubby. I have friends who have no fixed bedtime for their kids and the results are disastrous - cranky kids and very tired moms. Although I am in danger of sounding like a dictator, it is very important to let the kids know who set the rules (kids feel more secure and you will have less disobedience on your hands) although, you can consult them on minor issues (you set out the choices) to make them feel they have a hand in making the decision and hence, obey you willingly. Of course, at times you will wonder what you are sacrificing for but the bond that you will share with your child - nothing can replace the closeness and joy. The smiles on their faces, when they tell you "I love you, mommy", when they make little cards that says "You are the best mommy in the world", when they tell you "Mommy, you are the best cook in the whole wide world!" - priceless!!!

Answer 3

You know, I wish I had someone like you sticking up for me. Some days I will slack a little bit cause I have worked so hard the other days I have to give myself that break. I have a 3 yr old and 2 yr old with another on the way so I get exhausted easily. My husband complains that i need to be cleaning when the kids nap instead of napping with them. But you know what. The house isn't PERFECT, but dishes are done, I have a plan for dinner, the laundry is done, ect. My house is clean and sanitized and I feel that even though I know he goes to a hard job for 10 hrs a day I have a hard job here to. Yeah I get more breaks to sit on the computer for awhile. But I keep my butt moving on other stuff most of the day. I wish my 16 yr old brother was as smart as you. He wont pick his own laundry off the floor and both of my parents still work. You are going to be a wonderful husband and father someday! Just don't rush it! Enjoy your single life for a bit after high school or at least don't marry for awhile. I don't regret it but some days I wished I had let myself party a bit before I settled down. Tell your mom many people out there are rooting for her! And way to go to you for helping her out. Your dad should do it sometimes too. ( I have to admit that my husband can be a big help on Sunday's if he isn't fishing.)

Answer 4

The first few years were hard. Sleep is so important, but I felt like a zombie till my second was a year old. As they get older its easier just because of playdates, birthdays parties, school activities, etc. Time to myself was pretty much nonexistant because I breastfed. My kids are 2 years apart, so by the time I had one weaned, I was pretty much expecting the next. Time to myself was those brief moments when I'd shower without little eyes watching me, or spend an extra minute in the bathroom because they couldn't turn the doorknob. It was a trying experience, but it was very worth it. My three are in school now and we are trying for one last child. This time around it will be a breeze, just because I've done it before. Thank heavens for experience!

Answer 5

It hard work but well worth it! my time comes ween my lil girl gos to bed or takes a nap or sleeps in but it not 100% that they well do that. i love being a stay home mom it just the fact you are stuck on a childs lvl all the time you hard have grown up convations any more. i pretty much stay at less we go to walmart or to the park or walking. she 3 now and i have my 2nd on the way in feb i would change it for nothing. you miss out on so much if you work my friends work and party and there moms take care there kids.they tryed to get me to go out with them but i think my job being a mother means more ,plus i dont drink. i dont talk to much any more becouse i dont feel thats right. i love what i do and yeh there toys all over my living room 100% time and we have so much fun now she growing up. but it part for being a stay at home mom make momories .

Answer 6

I really enjoy being a stay at home mom....
I get to spend lots of time with my kids,volunteer/be involved at school. It is nonstop,and doesnt pay worth a crap,but its completely worth it! I dont get much time to myself,except for that hour a day when my 2 yr old is napping(before i pick my son up from school)

Answer 7

I get time to myself b/c one thing is true everyone wants to spend time with the baby. I have had no trouble finding time to myself. Either when my daughter was sleeping or when she was just being good in her swing or bouncy chair. Which are two things I would make sure you have pre-baby! I love staying at home with my baby, but my baby is sick so someone has to be with her all the time so I don't mind to do it!

Answer 8

i have 3 children and i stay at home 2 are at full time school but my son is 1 and i couldnt give hem to someone else to look after i want t be the first to see his fist steps his first word time flys by so quick and i want to spend as much time as i can with my children my partner works full time hes glad to be out lol and yes i do get time to myself and with freinds gong out and merry christmas to you

Answer 9

It's a wonderful thing to spend everyday with your child. You get to see them pass all their milestones. And the bond you'll create is like nothing else. It is very exhausting, however. And, no, you don't ever get much of a break unless you have someone who's willing to help. As for them sleeping, in the beginning you'll want to rest whenever they are, but as they get older you'll want to spend that time cleaning.

Answer 10

Though it is not with out some personal sacrifice I love it. As for time to my self that's what daddy is for,My husband is with my kids rite now. Thus allowing me some time to be by myself. It is time consuming yes and there is really no such thing as a day off,but I would not trade it.