the Xmas gifts I bought for my boyfriend and hs family,some of them are really expensive, we broke up about a week ago and I don't know if I should send the gifts to them anyway or if it isn't appropriate, it didn't end well. what should I do?
2006-12-24 01:58:58 · 13 answers · asked by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would hold off on giving these gifts. Often relationships will repair, and if so, you can give be-lated gifts, and explain that you had these for them at Christmas, but with circumstances you did not want to make anyone uncomfortable. I do not feel it is appropriate to give these gifts right now, as you said things did not end well, and you gifts that you bought with your heart may be interpreted as being a last dig...and I am sure that that is not your intention. I wonder if you expect your boyfriend and his family to give gifts to you? Return them in a few weeks if you and your ex have not worked things out. Merry Christmas.
2006-12-24 02:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you were close to the people you bought for go ahead and send them. If you didnt have any kind of relationship with them then keep the gifts or return them. Just because you two broke up shouldnt mean the bad feelings should spread to everyone. As for his gifts, no.....you dont send them to him. What would be the point.
2006-12-24 10:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by itsjustme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, this one's tough. i think if you have a really strong relationship with his family it's okay to still give the gifts. it will show that you are a caring person, and definitely earn you good girlfriend points with the family. if you hope that you guys will get back together down the road, you've kept a foot in with the family. if you hate him and hope he dies alone, well, your ex's family may always tell him his next girlfriends aren't as good as "that sweet girl you broke up with" that they remembered on a good note because of the presents. if you have a couple of really expensive ones that are going to break your bank, return them if you can, and just give the smaller gifts. there are other things you need right now that you can use that money on
2006-12-24 10:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by ~ Mi$fitPrin¢ess ~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on whether or not you plan on maintaining a relationship with his family, and how close you were with his family. If your contact with them was minimal and you weren't close to them, return what you can, give the rest to your family/friends or keep it if it is something you will lose. If you were close to his family and will remain in contact with them, send the gifts.
It also depends on how long you have been dating, if you have been dating for 2 months, I would not send them, if however you have been together for several years I would strongly consider sending the gifts, unless his family is being rude or impolite to you after the break-up.
2006-12-24 10:24:50 · answer #4 · answered by Shelley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you saved the receipt...you should take the gifts back and spend the money on you. You've stated the relationship didn't end well so if you send the gift it'll look like you still want him back....do you? Think about it.
2006-12-24 10:36:41 · answer #5 · answered by sapphire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they gave you gifts, or send you gifts, I'd send them theirs. But if January 1st rolls around and they've decided to opt out, return what you can and get yourself a mani, pedi, and facial. lol
2006-12-24 10:10:33 · answer #6 · answered by Jennie Fabulous 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your breakup was with your boyfriend not the family. Remember, Christmas is the season for giving and forgiving.
2006-12-24 10:26:24 · answer #7 · answered by Keith F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is an utterly personal decision - there are no rules of etiquette for such situations. Go with what you think is best/right to do - I am confident you'll be dead on! Happy holidays!
2006-12-24 13:12:54 · answer #8 · answered by ericscribener 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send it to them, they are still friends of yours even though you broke up.
2006-12-24 10:03:17 · answer #9 · answered by Tucker C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Return or exchange them if you can and use the refund to get something nice for yourself.
2006-12-24 10:09:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋