I recentely split with my ex, i was the one to break up with him.
I then went to a reunion of a guy who is going to college/university for his masters further up in the country. This guy is friends with my ex i dont think their v.close. Plus i dont think i should feel guilty for liking his friend (since my ex told me many times how much he likes one of my friends, before we went out and after we broke up).
Anyway at the reunion i ended up holding hands with his friend and he seemed really keen on me.
We then meet up again the following weekend and i thought it was only fair to tell him his friend was my ex (he didnt know) and that i still have a broken heart. I then sent him a mobile msg saying that i do like him but i have a brokenheart+dont know completely what i want. He didnt reply!! We did really get on when we meet up, sooo where do i stand? did i freak him out?? Why didnt he msg me back?? Was it the chase and now that its gone he doesnt like me? I dont know what to think??
2006-12-24 01:57:05 · 15 answers · asked by lazydazy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i didnt lead him on! I only realised how much of a broken heart i had afterwards since me and ex decided not to be friends anymore either. Also i did like him at the time i wasnt leading him on. I told him all this anyway...
2006-12-24 02:05:48 · update #1
There are two possible reasons he didn't return your text. The first is that he felt he was breaking the "guy code". You were his buddy's girl. That may automatically make you off-limits.
The second is that when you said that you have a broken heart and don't completely know what you want, he heard "I'm not ready for this". So he backed off.
You may say you don't think you should feel guilty for liking him, but then why are you so unsure? You said you're not sure what you want, at least not completely, and that you felt some pressure to tell him about his friend breaking your heart. It's very possible your signals just got mixed in the process too.
If you really want this guy, the key is open communication. Not in text message form. It's far too easy to misunderstand each other. Give him a call, and if he still doesn't respond, then it's obvious he's no longer interested. But at least you can have closure.
2006-12-24 02:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by Moon_flower69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect you may have overdone the "broken-hearted" bit. It kinda made you sound "needy" and looking for somebody to fill the gap left by your recent breakup with the other guy. I don't think guys take too well to the idea of going out with a girl who is going to be crying into her sleeve over somebody else, and pehaps the fact that this "somebody else" was a sort of friend of his, might be an additional factor.
You don't say what was the reason you broke up with this other guy. If it was over something that ticked him off, and perhaps the new man may have been in touch with him about you, it's possible that the one you broke up with may have said something unflattering about you.
My advice would be for you to just "cool it" with this guy for now. Don't do anything to make yourself look "pushy or needy". It's not going to kill you to be without a boyfriend for a little bit, and IF this guy really is interested in you, he'll be baaaaaack LOL. If he's not, he wont, so you'll know where you stand. Besides, you know that old saying -"there's better fish in the sea than yet came out of it".
2006-12-24 03:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite honestly, I think that you are moving on far too fast.
You know you're broken hearted, so why would you want to date someone when you're not even sure about what you want, when you know that this person likes you and is your ex's friend?
You are looking for troubles or trying to get back at your ex at the expense of someone else's feelings.
I think this guy realized that his best bet was to stay clear of you, no offence meant.
Try and sort your feelings out to start with, asking yourself if you just are on the rebound, or if this guy is someone you really like for the right reasons.
Don't get too upset if he is not up for helping you get over his friend.
x
2006-12-24 05:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't message you back because HE'S SMART! Why get involved with some girl that leads you on (holding hands) and then talks about a broken heart via his friend?! Too much drama, mama!
2006-12-24 02:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are still upset about this other lad then telling your new fella probably wasn't such as a good idea, especially so soon. If you like the new lad and are ready to start a new relationship, then just call him! sometimes its better to actually speak to the person then a text!!!
2006-12-24 02:06:19 · answer #5 · answered by markrj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would of just stay friends with him for a while...give yourself time to get over your break up and your broken heart...if you 2 are meant to be it will happen sometime but for now just give yourself time! and yeah you might of freaked him out....some guys dont like dating their friends ex's
2006-12-24 02:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get over your broken heart before you start dating again
2006-12-24 02:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by lemarkz51 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 21:25:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to work for toys or us.... too many games.
the bottom line is you're pissed at boyfriend and mrfriend is a convenient excuse. fine, call it what it is. a dryf#*k.
if you and boyfriend are through, move on. turn the page.
by the way, happy holidays.
2006-12-24 02:01:55 · answer #9 · answered by Ced 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you need to get in touch with yourself first,allow yourself time before dating and become whole again.
2006-12-24 02:01:45 · answer #10 · answered by MJ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋