well he is sooo sweet and i luv him but...sometimes i wish he was a little more..well ya assertive.
2006-12-24 01:37:33 · 12 answers · asked by alison b 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He may be just trying to make sure you are ok. He may be cautious because he wants to make you happy. Just tell him you want him to be more assertive.
2006-12-24 01:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by BamaJJP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated an unassertive guy once before. For me, it didn't work out because I am assertive and maybe even intimidating. But as you said, the unassertive ones are sweeties because they sit back and just let you make all the decisions and don't make a fuss -- very easygoing -- which is an excellent quality in a guy. In the end, everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, and it sounds like this isn't a really big deal for you, which is good. You have to accept him for who he is and don't try to change him. The only thing I could say is support him since he sounds like he's sensitive, don't criticize and if he ever is assertive with you, make sure he has a positive response, so he'll act assertive more often.
2006-12-24 09:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wishing is normal but trying to change others is futile. No one is 100% perfect; many good points should be enough to keep your love growing. Focus on the good points, and do not ask him for making unimportant decisions. Whenever possible be assertive for both of you, if he does not object. Happy holidays to both of you.
2006-12-24 09:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by wheniek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll tend to have that with the "nice guys". Had the same conversation with my wife (gf at the time). I was a bit unsure and insecure of myself. But when we talked about it, she never talked-down to me and always treated me as an equal. Not saying I'm Super Sly Guy now or anything, but things have been better because of us talking about it.
2006-12-24 09:45:20 · answer #4 · answered by Meiju 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not weird. Just talk to him about it. Just dont put him down or rub it in when he does'nt get assertive. Dont come off looking like a *****.
2006-12-24 09:43:49 · answer #5 · answered by Danny S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with that Honey...And if he isn't assertive enough then you just take the bull by the horns or the tail , whichever you would like to grab and be the ***-ertive one....Go get him ! ! ! ! !
2006-12-24 09:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The liberal agenda of political correctness and tolerance that has been rammed down our throats for the last 20 years has basically neutered and sissified all our men. It shouldn't come as a surprise. I hope you're successful in your efforts at helping him find his stones.
2006-12-24 09:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by I hate friggin' crybabies 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No , talk to him if he love's you he will understand, if not get you'r self a real man that knows how to treat a lady !!!!!!! good luck
2006-12-24 09:42:07 · answer #8 · answered by hardroader67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2006-12-24 09:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by somerandominternetperson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah not weird at all quite common actually.maybe you should drop hints about how you feel get him to make choices ask him what he wants to do.
2006-12-24 09:41:56 · answer #10 · answered by NICOLA G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋