ok i love him to death and i do trust him...but he can't seem to understand why him being close to her kills me from the inside out....he says that he can't ever gt back to her from whatever it is she did to him but they're only friends...but it stills bothers me..isn't that suppose to be normal?
2006-12-24 01:23:18 · 16 answers · asked by for the heck of it 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO IT IS NOT NORMAL. Sounds like you will aways be second fiddle. Move on.
2006-12-24 01:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by brokylm3 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
So you've talked to him about it?
If he really cares about you then he wouldnt lie to you knowingly. He must really think nothing is going to happen. For the most part I owuld just trust him.
How long have they been appart?
If its been awhile maybe his ex just misses the friend part of the relationship that they had. Losing a Boyfriend Or Girlfriend is like losing a Bestfriend so have some sympathy for this girl too!
If they have on recently broken up i suggest you talk to the girl to make sure she really has no intensions
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2006-12-24 01:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by briacass 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is normal for it to bother you, but now that I am older I see things differently. First of all you have expressed your feelings and he obviously not budging. He maybe just as he says just friends with her or he could be trying to work up his confidence enough to go back to her and you are his plan B. You know just in-case he gets rejected or he changes his mind about her.
Your complaining will be a turn off to him. And his excuse for dumping you. beat him to the punch dump him before he dumps you.I would never let my guy or his ex see my insecurity. Eventually, if you will actually feel confident. Your confidence will give you the strength to move on if he can't respect your feelings. Confidence is also attractive, you may just attract someone better.
Personally I would move on. You are obviously his consolation prize.
2006-12-24 01:53:06 · answer #3 · answered by vegas mel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to pull her to the side and talk to her. Find out what her intensions are towards him. He may not want her in that way , but she may have hopes of breaking you two up and getting back with him.....she's on the outside looking in and she may want back in. It's good to trust him, but don't be a fool.He may not love her like before but he might still just care about her......you can't just cut someone out of you heart, whether you have moved on or not.See what is going on in her head and lay it down.
2006-12-24 01:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are jealous, understandably, but he was married to her and now they are friends. He has a right to be friends with her but just friends, especially if they have kids toghether.
You need some ground rules. Friendship is okay. Being alone together is not. Her calling for advise is okay, but not late at night or all the time. Just set some boundries and it will be okay. If you try to control him it will back fire on you.
2006-12-24 01:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah... but don't bother if he makes you feel secure and if he never fails to show you that he loves you more than anyone else... its enough that you let him know that your being bothered of their friendship but thats it sis.. end it there.. trust is essential so you must trust him but be observant too but not too the point that your being possessive. whatever bothers you just tell him straight so that he can show you what you want.
2006-12-24 01:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by mybabytart 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on why his ex is around? Does he share children with his ex? If children are involved there is nothing you can do. Some times people do remain friends. One of my oldest friends is an ex. But when I was married my ex husband had an issue with our friendship. So we only sent Christmas cards and such.
2006-12-24 01:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by Constance Olivia 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you aren't comfortable with him being friends with his ex and he has to understand this. Just for your happiness and peace of mind, can't he just dump this girl and stop communicating with her. Be straightforward and do not try to rationalize your jealousy, you can't but it is there and that is what matters in your relationship the most.
2006-12-24 01:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suppose that it is normal for some, but let me tell you from experience that you will waste alot of valuable time, energy and emotion worrying about her. Not to mention she will definitely be able to sense it in you and I'm sure you don't want that. You are better off using that energy expressing yourself to him, don't worry about her, shes old news!!!!! Don't cheat yourself because of her.
Merry Christmas!!
2006-12-24 01:28:48 · answer #9 · answered by DeltaQueen 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, very normal!!! I have the same problem but we settled it last night he told me that he is so annoyed of her calling so I said call her back and tell her. So 5 minutes later he called me back and told what happened. I think you should talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. He already might but you have to set it in his mind, He cant have another girl behind your back that he has already dated.
2006-12-24 01:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel N 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is normal, you feel intimidated by her presence. If he says he's through maybe you should believe him and go with that. But just be careful too.
2006-12-24 01:25:46 · answer #11 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋