Okay just to be short about this, She is 21/2 years old tells me to change her diaper, could care less about going potty, and a mother-in-law who thinks I need to MAKE her go potty. The M-I-L thing is just about to really piss me off. She made 1 of her other grandchildren sit on potty for hours before letting her up! Not an option here! I just wish I knew what to do to get her trained before I really go off on M-I L and cause real family problems!
2006-12-24 00:56:36 · 13 answers · asked by luvmykids2 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You can not potty train your child. You can take them to the potty, you can sit them on the potty, you can tell them to go potty, but ultimately it is up to them whether or not to pee. If your child is not interested drop it for a while. Believe me, she will get it sooner or later. Have you ever seen a 5 year old in school wearing diapers? I haven't unless if they have some disability. So don't worry, don't get stressed, and tell your MIL that your daughter will do it in her own time when she is ready. You will be amazed, one day, it will just click in your daughters head, and the potty will be wonderful to her. Until then, just enjoy your daughter, she won't be a toddler for long.
2006-12-24 11:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by Nails 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone else's answers are really good. With my daughter, I try to make it as calm as possible. If she tries to get up, I let her get up. You can't force it because it will just make her fight more. I also offer my daughter a reward when she goes (M & M minis work well). I do know how you feel though because my daughter is only 21 months and my mother is forcing me to start potty-training now. She can't even pull her pants down yet. My mother also makes her sit on the potty several times a day for at least a half hour each time. My daughter hates it and is now starting to hide her potty so she can't go on it. All I can say is she'll go when she's ready and tell your mother-in-law you are doing things your way. Hopefully she won't be like my mother and will actually listen to you. Good luck.
2006-12-24 06:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by RNFQueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your MIL is a hag and needs to mind her own business. I would just ignore her because if you try to talk to her you are so frustrated you will probably just end up yelling at her! And don't leave your daughter alone with her because she obviously can't be trusted not to torture her like she did to her other grandchild.
I think you just need to work on getting off and on the potty, talking about it and picking out cute undies, but the rest is up to your daughter. Knowing 2 year olds if you make it a big deal then she will just become more stubborn. Positive peer pressure doesn't hurt either, is there a slightly older girl friend or cousin who wouldn't mind letting your daughter watch her go pee or talking to her about how big girls use the potty in a nice way?
2006-12-24 07:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by Charlotte G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All kids are different. I had my first girl wanting to go by 2 years old. The second I tried at 2, and she wasn't ready. But at 2 1/2, she went right along with it without a single accident. I'd take her to the store and show her the big girl panty aisle and let her know that you would buy her some, but you can't because she still goes to the potty in her pants like a baby does. She might not instantly respond, but she'll be thinking about it and will ask you for some big girl panties soon!
2006-12-24 01:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by glitterkittyy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Potty training exercise is not an easy task. My son is the same age as your daughter. Still he didn't master this exercise despite the fact that we started training him like 2 months ago.
One technique that worked fine with him at the beginning is taking him regularly (around every 30 minutes) to the bathroom. Personally I don't believe of having the pot outside the bathroom is a good idea.
One thing you have to make sure of, once you started potty training you have to let go the idea of having any kind of diapers around the kid as he knows what you are doing.
Believe me they understand. Be persistent. Personally I don't think that you should wait too much without potty training.
Best of Luck.
2006-12-24 01:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Potty training can be quite an issue. We just went through it with one of my little nephews (who is a good deal older than your little girl)- he was a lot like your little girl- he simply couldn't be bothered. Mom, his mom and I all tried working with him and it just didn't work... aside from using brute force (and that awful exp your MIL's other gr'child had- did it work, I wonder???) I really don't see what you can do to 'make' her want to go. My sis was determined that in no way would this be a traumatic experience for him, so talked to him about it a lot but didn't push it. One day, he simply was ready and there was no looking back after that! My bro& sis-in-law would park their little ones on the toilet and read stories to them- but it was never done as a 'battle of wills'. There are some excellent potty-training books available in bookstores- have you checked that out? Try your local lib. Something to make it fun for kids is what you need.
As far as your MIL, could you just firmly and calmly tell her that this child is not hers and you will be the one dealing with it, not her.
Good Luck!
2006-12-24 01:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by boots&hank 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am in almost the same situation. mine is going to be 3 in a few months. her big thing is a school bus. she wants to ride a school bus. i told her when she starts going potty like a big girl i would take her for a ride on a school bus. she tries sometimes but on a more quick reminder of it i will take her to chuckie cheese and play games with her and remind her that this was her reward for being a big girl and going potty. sometimes this works with her others it does not. the doctor said don't push it. she's not a puppy and we can't rub her nose in it. as far as the pushy mother in law good luck i would have done told her off. maybe avoid her for a little while and she will get the picture. good luck with your little angle.
2006-12-24 02:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by instig8tor682000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 kids and both of them learned at different times. One thing i learned with the harder of the 2 was to give your child a toy (doll, stuffed animal etc...) and let your child potty train the toy. Every once in a while say "Does Sally (doll's name) need to go to the bathroom"and in no time your child will do it on thier own. We learn best by teaching. Hope this helped. Oh about the m-i-l tell her to keep her oppions to herself if you want advise you will ask for hers.
2006-12-24 01:07:59 · answer #8 · answered by moonflower 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, my first thought is this, she's only 2 1/2 ! don't rush her just because your overbearing MIL think that she should be ready. Children do things on their own time, and if they are rushed it could take twice as long. As for your MIL, I would tell her to mind her own business and tell her that she will learn in time. One other thing, I wouldn't let the little one alone with her for fear of her making her sit on the potty that long, that could traumatize her!
2006-12-24 01:01:35 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
wait for the signs that you child is ready to potty train and go from there
can she comunicate her needs
can she make it to the potty
can she take her pants down
the 3 most inportant potty training steps if she can do this then she is more than ready otherwise you can wait no big deal
2006-12-24 01:03:01 · answer #10 · answered by chuy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋