In November I found out I was pregnant, then I thought I miscarried, but later found out I was still pregnant but it was ectopic and I had to have a hormone injection to clean out the leftover tissue from my ovaries. I took my son to the doctors with me last week and he started saying that I was pregnant too, and i was going to have a baby, I didn't want to tell him, i thought he forgot, but when I told him I wasn't pregnant he asked what did I do with the baby. He is only four, but he is so very smart. I know he wants a brother or sister, and we have been trying for so long, and we were so excited when I found out I was pregnant, but we just been living day to day since I lost the baby. We didn't think about how he would take it. Now I need to explain further to him and I don't know what to say. Its not the first time I have had an ectopic, I had a bad time before he was born.
2006-12-24 00:23:28 · 9 answers · asked by mommyramey 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am sorry for your loss. Are you ok? Just know this the very moment your baby left your womb, his or her soul meet with Jesus, in Jesus Rocking Chair along with all the other babies he has.
This is something that you could do,
Get a blue or pink balloon, fill with hellium, and put a sticker of a baby on it, and tell him that you are going to let him see how the baby went to heaven.
let your son hold the balloon, and say Baby someday, I will hold you and meet you and My mommy will hold you again too,
TEll your son, say goodbye to the baby, Go to Heaven, and Be with Jesus!, Then let him release the balloon in the sky, and tell and assure him the baby that was in your belly is in heaven just like his baby balloon.
This way my kids was able to understand the miscarriages and stillbirths, and even death from a premature birth as my son did.
Know this the baby you never knew and dreams, your heart will stay with them forever, and you will see them again.
2006-12-26 04:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all I'm so sorry. But just tell him that he's in heaven with Jesus. Tell him that Jesus wanted the baby to be with him. And that the baby is sitting up in heaven on a cloud with the angles watching over everything. Just remember everything happens for a reason. We might not know what that reason is right now and might not understand. But some day well will. Everything will work out. It always does. One way or the either. Good Luck and Merry Christmas.
2006-12-24 00:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by Hugs and Kisses 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I kinda know what you are going through. I have lost two now and having to explain it to children is hard. The best thing to do is like everyone else is saying. Tell him that the angels wants to play with the baby so they took the baby to heaven with them. It seems to be the easiest way to deal with it all and they seem to understand it a lot better. My goddaughter overheard me talking to my cousin about my daughter I lost and was asking where she was and that is what we told her. She seem to understand really well and she was 3 at the time. So give them so credit and be honest to them about everything. You never know what they will understand! Good Luck and I hope God Blesses you someday with all the children you want!
2006-12-24 04:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by Confused 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him that God decided the baby wasnt to be born now. That sometimes something goes wrong and the baby that you were gonna have cant come and be with us. You can tell him that you are still trying to have another baby and will tell him as soon as you are sure.And next time dont tell him until you are pretty sure that you are a-ok.
2006-12-24 04:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so very sorry for your loss. I couldn't imagine what it must be like to go through something like that.
I agree with the other posters. When you're ready, talk to him and tell him that the baby is in Heaven (if you believe yourself, not trying to force anything on you).
2006-12-24 04:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by Annamarie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you going to have to sit him down and tell the baby is in heaven now with the angles it nothing any one did it was just time for the baby to go to heaven. i wait to tell my lil girl she 3 and also very smart for her age ween i started showing and had my utrasound and everything was fine. sometimes with things like it best to wight before tell anyone becouse anything can happen. i am sorry for your lost and i wish you well.
2006-12-24 01:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by mommy72403 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry, that would be very hard. all you can do and the best thing you can do is tell him the truth, in 4 year old words of course. you do not need to add every detail though.
2006-12-24 02:10:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think the best way to go on this is to tell him that g-d wanted the baby to be with Him. if he asks why, tell him that you don't know because He is so great that we don't understand why He does some of the things He does. please accept my sympathy for your pain and loss. happy holidays.
2006-12-24 01:57:58 · answer #8 · answered by missizzy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if your Christan then tell him she went 2 heaven cause god needed her & it was her time
2006-12-24 00:28:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋