My x brother in law moved into my home a few months ago, long story but my hubby and I decided to help him out. Last night his son was here visiting his Dad as he always does on the weekends. Last night my x brotherinlaw decided to go out for an hour so I said no big deal but he didnt come back til 3 am. I called him 2 x on his cell asking him to come home and he didnt until way later. I know why he stayed out, he has some sex addiction which I didnt know until he moved in. What should I do? Should I confront him before xmas or do it after? I have a feeling he knows I'll wait til after xmas which makes me even angrier. His son is 14 yrs old but I didnt sign up to be a babysitter when I let him move in.
2006-12-24 00:08:03 · 8 answers · asked by julia4evert 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would wait until after Christmas espeically since it is only a day away now...there is no use in upsetting everyone before the holiday. It will also give you time to list all the logical reasons why you think his behavior is bull. Good luck!
2006-12-24 00:12:27 · answer #1 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 07:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is just make yourself as busy as you can so that your x brother in law could see that you are not a day care, you just being there and not saying anything makes him think he can walk all over you, next time he goes out ask him for sure what time he will be back because you dont want to be thinking that something bad could have happend. Tell him after christmas, but dont be hard, he's probably stressing over whatever situation hes in, if him living there is hard on you, imagine how hard it is for him .
2006-12-24 05:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by Summer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How horrible it must be for his 14 yr. old to go visit Dad and him leave, what a shame. No, don't blow up just yet, and why are you dealing with it and not your husband? Tell your husband he needs to grow some and handle this guy. Wait until after X-mas and give this guy his walking papers. Please check on the son from time to time, looks like he needs a responsible adult in his life.....Good Luck and Merry X-mas
2006-12-24 00:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Silly girl!
Christmas is tailor-made for family blow-ups! Wait till Christmas Eve (hey, that's tonight!) and then give him both barrels.
He'll never forget, I guarantee, and you can look at it as a present to yourself (after all, you will be lowering your blood pressure).
Keeping the upper hand in your own house is the goal; don't let this smug bastard feel he's got a pass until the 26th...or even later.
2006-12-24 00:17:31 · answer #5 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would wait until after the holidays, don't ruin it for everyone else even though it sounds to me like he sure is ruining your life. I think the best approach is to have a Nice holiday and then deal with him later ~Merry Christmas~
2006-12-24 00:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dun wait till xmas,, just make coffee 4 him n you n ur hubby, sit down and talk things out and tat means talk sense with him, tell him you got rules in your home,, arrange with your hubby to talk with him,, n dun wait till xmas cos xmas is to gather with your loved ones,,
2006-12-24 00:14:20 · answer #7 · answered by D'yah Musshyyo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd throw him out now. Why put off tomorrow what you can do today?
2006-12-24 00:12:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋