I have been with my partner for 16 years, his father has recently found out that he could have bowel cancer but apart from my partner and his two brothers no one else is allowed to know about this they ve been sworn to secrecy I apparently am not allowed to know because I am best friends with my partners cousin who is known for having a big mouth and there terrified i l say something to her which I would never do, I have never gave them any reason not to trust me I do keep secrets and never gossip so why after we have been together 16 yrs and have 5 children between us that they still dont see me as part of their family i'm so annoyed I feel like throwing all their christmas presents in the bin! There like this with my sister in law as well and it drives her mad!
2006-12-23 23:13:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Cancer is hard on everyone involved and if this man is dying then he may want to live out his life without being pitied. By not telling anyone he will have some normalcy for awhile. I don't know the whole story about why you are feeling so pushed away by the family. But if the cancer issue is why you aren't feeling like part of the family, then you may be a little selfish. This is not something a cancer patient wants everyone to know, not because they do not like you, but they don't want people to start grieving for them in their presence and it does happen. Try to be understanding and let the family deal with this the way he wishes.
2006-12-24 00:13:20 · answer #1 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kinda know how you feel...my dads side of the family is very quiet about things and private to a t....sometimes i dont get wind of important things until long after they have happened...if after 16 years they have not let you in as part of the family you simulate your own family with your children...let them know they can come to you for anything...always be truthful and honest and help one another figure things out. so that you dont have a family situation like your father in laws....cancer isnt something you can heal yourself and family is what you need be supportive but dont worry about dealing with the secrecy...you just be supportive
2006-12-23 23:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by meshack915 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now there's a "SHOCKER", the in-laws know everything about you, yet keep their side of the family secret, thats why In-laws (I call them out-laws SUCK), their always medling, yet stand clear, when it gets too hot, they have driven a wedge down my family, I have a brother and a sister that I have NOT talked to in about 10 years, I hate being from an Irish family, clearly the STUPIDEST race ever to walk the earth !
yes I'm 100% Irish American !
2006-12-23 23:19:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I'm wendy from malaysia. Yes, I'm understand the matter/problem you're facing now. No matter what, life must still need to keep going ok! We must live happily everday or may be you should pray to god to overcome your problem, so you won't feel stress or something. Last but not least, try to be happy all the time and the most important is you must be positive and also be open minded ok? ok, good luck!
2006-12-24 00:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't dwell on this issue. Alot of families are like this. Secrets, Secrets, Secrets. Seems like all of us who are in-laws are never totally acceptable and trustworthy to some degree.
2006-12-23 23:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that, is sad they feel that way towards you. make the most of the time you have with your father in law, and forget about what the rest of the family thinks.
2006-12-23 23:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by barb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the actual incontrovertible truth that they were witches! :D i have under no circumstances even watched the movie, yet i have study a number of her comics interior the Archies. :) So if I were given it good.... i'm very much surprised. lol Have a fine looking evening!
2016-12-01 03:29:58 · answer #7 · answered by cheathem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
# 1 you just told the whole "YAHOO" Q &A so what makes you think you should be trusted.
2006-12-24 07:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make them feel like you are part of them.. tell them you are bi
it helps
2006-12-23 23:16:53 · answer #9 · answered by Oral Guy wants to find a bi girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋