Me and my b/f are in a long distance relationship.
He was going to come and spend x'mas and new years with me, but he did not make it because he assumed his plane would be delayed due to the thick fog at Heathrow and that he was going to miss his connecting flight, so he did not even bother to show up at the airport yesterday.
I did ask him to leave a day earlier to ensure he could make his flight, but he came up with different excuses. I was very upset with him cause he told me he couldnt make it without even going to the airport.
I told him I hate him for not trying harder. Was I right to blame him? He is apparently very sad now too as he has been away from his city to get away from everyone. What should I do? Should I forgive him?
2006-12-23 23:07:26 · 13 answers · asked by OS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He made bad plans, and your feelings are hurt because you don't think he tried everything he could have to get to you. You can forgive this, or not, but if you can't find it in yourself to let this go...the long-distance relationship is history.
My worry now is about him forgiving you. It sounds to me like things have been said in anger that can't entirely be taken back. It seems likely that he is unhappy with the way things worked out too, and your being able to say "I told you so" about leaving earlier doesn't help any. Then you tell him you hate him. Harsh. Merry Christmas to you too. Distance is hard, sometimes too hard, if you guys are going to get through this you have to try a little harder to be take care of each other.
2006-12-23 23:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by David G 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know about forgiving him, but you definately over reacted. HATE him because he made what sounds like a poor judgement call? If he was telling you "no" right from the git go with excuses, without trying, then I think that might be different...but, It sounds like he was all ready to do so, but made a bad judgement call. How far does he live from the airport? If it's quite a distance I may have done the same thing.
2006-12-24 09:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him ,,,, Long distance relationships never work out any way and getting worked up about it doesn't do you any good ,,,, Anyone can make excuses when they actually don't want to do something ,,, He's a jerk ,,, You don't need this ,,,,, Find some one more readily available and is fun and exciting to be with ,,,, That's what having a relationship is all about anyway ,,,,, He probable hasn't got the time to share with you anyway ,,,, He's probably too busy with the girlfriend he has where he's at ,,,,, He was probably leading you on about even coming to you in the first place ,,,,,
2006-12-24 08:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe, according to him celebrating Christmas & new year is not worth traveling such a long journey. And then if this is his feeling, it is but obvious that he wont share the same, coz it'l make you sad.
I think u should forgive him.
Merry Chirstmas & Happy New Year.
2006-12-24 07:36:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anand 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is totally up to you. I would forgive him if I truly was interested in sticking with this relationship... and forgive him WITHOUT bringing it up again. If you aren't really interested in this relationship or only want to be friends with him, just tell him you want to break it off. You either forgive someone or just get out of the relationship. That's just the way it is.
2006-12-24 07:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by faithloveseternally 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound pretty immature; you hate him for not trying harder; come on, grow up.
Forgive him for what? He didnt' do anything wrong. Maybe he had things to do or that he didnt' want or maybe he had second thoughts.
Don't be so demanding; maybe if you'd lighten up a bit he'd want to come earlier.
2006-12-24 07:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you think he was making excuses to not catch his flight, let him sweat it out a bit. He probably should've done what you said but some guys just don't listen to reason. lol See what he says about it tomorrow. If he seems truly sorry, forgive him.
2006-12-24 07:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
what's the use going to the airport, when everything is fogged in.
2006-12-24 07:34:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes you should forget the sob .he should try harder for the person he love .tell him you what to braek up and find new people in both of your lifes.
2006-12-24 07:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by fionn hannon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forgiving is a better then revenge.
2006-12-24 07:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by Salim Gohar 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋