How can I stop myself from getting so angry?

Question

I don't know what it is.... i have absolutely no patience at the moment and I'm snapping at my friends and family. I really don't like myself at the moment. It's not like me at all, I'm normally a very easy going person... Please help

Answer 1

Hi Minniex,

Sounds like you need some 'me' time. A nice long soak in the tub (don't forget the champagne......) would help..... Bubbly and suds....

Take care -

Happy holidays,

-Robert

Answer 2

Hello

You could talk to your Doctor, it maybe that your feeling down (you dont have to have a reason). All you may need is some pick me up pills such as an antidepressent.
If you DONT want to go to the doctors then why dont you try some of my things listed below and see if any of these help you???

1) When you feel your getting angry and that your temper is on the egde of snapping, WALK AWAY and get some fresh air. Take several deep breaths and count to ten then come back indoors.

2) Try relaxing abit. Lavender oil is GREAT to help you relax. Burn some pure essential lavender oil from an oil burner in your room. (Buy this from a health shop. Pur oil comes in a dark bottle).

3) Take a hot bath with a few drops of Lavender oil in it.

4) Make a diary of all the things that wind you up and make you snap. Keep this record and have a look at it. Try to think of possible ways to prevent each thing from upsetting you and make a note next to them.
FOR EXAMPLE:-
Trigger - Someone disagrees with you over something.
Solution - Walk away and get fresh air or find a
compermise with them.

It all about your own mind disapline and if you REALLY hate the person you are at the moment then YOU can make things right. Try talking to your friends and family. Just explain to them your sorry for snappying at them but you ARE trying to deal with it. Tell them how your feeling even write them a letter. Sometimes you find that if you put others around you in the picture of how your feeling, they can back off and help you aswel. If you DONT say anything to them then they are none the wiser are they.

If all else fails mate maybe you need a holiday away from them (not sure your age here) but if your old enough to go away on your own then do so. Even if its just for a weekend or one night. It maybe you just need to get away for a little while for some own/personal time.

If your not able to go away whatever your reason and nothing else helps go see your Doctor hun x

Answer 3

Anger is not the real emotion here - anger is a conduit through which other emotions are translated, and thus remain hidden. Normally, it is guilt, frustration, disappointment, inferiority, upset or some other emotion that becomes anger. You need to look at how you're feeling underneath the anger - the root cause that is unresolved. Try talking to yourself quietly (not on the bus or in the pub, obviously!) and identify what you are feeling that people are not seeing and helping with. Christmas doesn't help - it magnifies how you are feeling - good or bad - by 500%, so anything bothering you will be blown out of proportion anyway and you will feel worse. Be honest with yourself and then be honest with the people who are not meeting your expectations. The anger will give way once you feel that you have been properly heard. Hope this helps. x x

Answer 4

IMHO, we all get angry when something doesn't go "our" way or something that "we" want does not happen. At the end of the day, human beings are all very self centred and we are bound to lose it every now and then depending on the situation. Countng backwards, havin a drink wateva, is not a long term solution. Next time you're angry just be aware that you are angry, consciously and sub consciously. As soon as you become aware of something you are doing which is not right, you'll stop. And if you cant, hey just accept it, that you are angry. It'll pass. The best thing I can suggest is meditation. Im not saing turn into a hippy, hare krishna folk. You dont have to change your lifestyle to meditate, rather meditate to change your life. All the best

Answer 5

First of all are u due to come on your period. If not then it sounds like you are very depressed there must be something that has made you unhappy, until you figure out what that is you are going to carry on like this. You should have a long think about it, and tell your family and friends you are sorry and you need time to yourself for the moment. I sometimes get very angry too, but then i have 3 sons who drive me nuts, to calm down i count to ten in my head or walk out of the room. Good luck and i hope you have a nice chrismas. xx

Answer 6

I use to be like you, with help here is way to control it. It is sit down and make a list, what and why is making you angry. Then take a break, even go for a long walk, do say anything to any one. When you carm down. Go throu the list. It may come up why you are angry, Then you work out a way to handle the temper

Answer 7

I am the same,unfortunately. i hate myself for that, but right now, i cant help it. I'm a waitress, and when customers call me they are ready to order and than they are thinking another minute what they are going to have, i feel like smashing the table. or if someone is in my way, it is becoming a problem for me to say excuse me, i just wanna push them.i still say excuse me, but if you heard the way i say it...
The reason for me being like that is cause I'm very depressed. There is something, what is really bothering me, making my mind busy 24-7, so i cant actually concentrate on anything else. there is probably something in your life as well, what bothers you and make you being over-reacting. if you sort that out, you should calm down

Answer 8

Find out where the anger is coming from and deal with it. Talk to someone about why your angry. If you can't figure it out then stay on your own, unless you want to ruin everyone else's Christmas by snapping at them. Don't drink alcohol it makes some people more angry.... well it doe's to me anyway !

Answer 9

if you are not normally like this ,chances are something has happened to make you like this now ,look at your life and whats been going on around you ,it might just be you need a bit of peace ,if you have people about all the time its crazy but it can drive your mind wild ,and you might not even notice it ,try taking time out just for you ,,,pamper your self ,get peace and quiet,,,soak in the bath ,anything that slows you down ,seems to me you probably dont relax enough,,,,life can be a rat race..find a little place and hide ,,,,it works for me ,,,no tv no phone ,no appiontments ,,cancil the lot ,,,and just rest ,,,even if its for just 10 mins ,its so calming its loverly ,,,all the best and a merry christmas

Answer 10

i can relate, usually when I'm over worked, really tired,or stressed out, or Pre occupied with other things i tend to get real short with others.i really dint like distractions, I'm focused or so I think
you know this is the holiday season one of the highest most stressful times of the year give your self a break try to relax maybe meditate (clear your mind) take time out for others, make a gratitude list or find something to be grateful for. I'm usually angry when things dint go my way( lack of control) Happy Holidays

Answer 11

The whole issue is linked to desire, the moment you desire you have a vacumm, anything that comes in the way of fulfilling that desire makes you angry. This requires an attitute change and understanding that gettting angry does not solve the issues.