im 17 in a very loving and happy realtionship and due to be married to my 22yr old bf the thing is i feel i am ready for a baby but my bf isnt so keen but yet he talks about having children and he brings it up and also he looks at loads of things to do with babys and he is a total natural with my baby brother.he does say that he does want children with me. i think maybe he is saying no about it at the moment because he is scared about it.
what do you think?
2006-12-23 22:26:58 · 11 answers · asked by mummy to 3 miracles 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i dont want a baby because its christmas iv wanted one for a while and i no they are hard work and for life but i cant help the way i feel
2006-12-23 22:39:35 · update #1
I think you better wait.
2006-12-23 22:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by angrysandwichguy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he does not want to have a kid right now cause you are ONLY 17 years old. You are still a teenager. You should be thinking about school and a career rather than a baby. Once you have a baby, That is it, your life will be put on hold for the next 18 years. Are you willing to do that?
I think that you should wait til you are married and in your 20's before having a baby. You have all the time in the world to have a baby. Your only a teenager once. I would say he thinks both of you are too young to be parents right now. Why the rush?
1)While your friends are out having fun are you going to be happy being home with a baby 24/7?
2)What if you do get pregnant and your boyfriend leaves you will you still want that baby?
3)Why are you wanting a baby when you are still a baby yourself?
4)Why can't you wait until you are married?
I would be living it up right now if i were to be 17 again. I would be going to school and having fun. Why be tied down right now?
I had my son at age 21 and i think that was really too young thinking back about it even though my son was planned and all.
Just think it over and good luck to you
2006-12-24 06:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you and your bf are at odds over having a baby you should find out why and then make a plan so you know what has to be done first and when you can start trying to get pregnant. If you turn around and go off birth control and "trick" him into getting you pregnant, he'll be resentful, but if you sit back and wait for him to get ready and he doesn't seem to ever feel ready, you'll get resentful. You both have to work together and figure out what you both want to have happen.
2006-12-24 09:48:43 · answer #3 · answered by chamely_3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 27 I had my first child, it is quite difficult more so than I would ever imagine. There is a reason why teenage pregnancy is frowned upon, sweety believe it or not at 17 you really dont know much. What about college? Dont you want to set an example for your child show him/her that there is more to life than being barefoot and pregnant, Why are you rushing things? Dont cheat your child out of having a great mom, by having one WAY before you were ready.
2006-12-24 06:42:16 · answer #4 · answered by cvegas229 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its natural to want a baby with someone you love but please don't do it yet. Babies are wonderful when your ready but right now you aren't even married yet. My husband and had our daughter the first year we were married and although I would never trade her for the world it was very difficult even at age 22. We both wished we would have taken more time to ourselves to just hang out with eachother for the first couple years we were married. Babies are like working 2 full time jobs!
2006-12-24 09:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by tjnos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to want a baby, but you are very young. What's the rush? Give it a bit more time for your partner to get used to the idea. Your relationship is far more likely to succeed if you don't rush things.
2006-12-24 07:30:02 · answer #6 · answered by Ricecakes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he's sayng no at the moment because you are 17! are you engaged, or just "due to be married" to a boyfriend? wait until you are married, and emotionally, physically, and somewhat financially ready for a baby. you can't give it back after you have one. you have 20 more years to have kids. why such a rush? you just started driving! chill out, and enjoy your TEEN years.
2006-12-24 06:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until you and your boyfriend are married and have some income and money saved. Also try and get some college courses in before you have a child. I just had my first child at 20, and it is hard trying to balance college and motherhood.
2006-12-24 06:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by xxautumnstarsxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 and 22 years is a bit too young of an age for babying, if you ask me.
2006-12-24 06:35:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should wait, if he isent comforable at the moment wait for a while untill he is. just like if it was the other way around. if you wernt ready you wouldnt want to be pressured.
2006-12-24 13:02:49 · answer #10 · answered by *Cherry* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask you are not ready, babies are not for christmas ..they are forever
2006-12-24 06:35:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋