I met this girl, excellent chemistry, magic in the eyes, and she was coming after me. We started talking, exchanging phone numbers and what not. I started to like her alot. Anyway, i have good game, but the most screwed up thing happened: my employee had something against me and sent her a rose and a poem on my behalf. She said thanks at first, and i didnt know how to respond since it wasnt me. So i didnt (bad move, should have been honest). She started to become stand offish towards me, i told her the truth about it, i dont think she believed me. A week later I drunk messeged her. I tried to recover, and she told me she thought I was obsessed. being told im obsessed with any girl is offensive to me. But in this case, I liked her. She never spoke to me again. Never returns any messeges. Its been 4 months. I talk to other girls, but dont feel the same as I did with this girl. I promise myself im going to win a date. But how do I do this. Ive sent her 1 txt a month.and still nothing.
2006-12-23 21:24:32 · 10 answers · asked by Starving Artist 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's obviously not interested. Move on.
2006-12-23 21:28:02 · answer #1 · answered by Pache 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww, that is actually upsetting. Well, for starters, I can tell you one thing I've picked up here. This girl, may have had a very creepy experience in the past with someone that may have been obsessed by her. She maybe someone who picks up any sign at all and decides "here we go again" and she runs like the wind.
That person who dam well interferred should be the one apologising to her and sorting this **** out. The employee should be the one to go see her and say "Look, I feel really bad here, I sent that rose and poem for a lark and I feel I've really embarrassed him for doing this".
Other than this, there is nothing you can do. Any attempt on your part is just taken as something else to her. If you try and write to her, she thinks it's obsession... and yes that is insulting and not true obviously.
You are taken by her and I'm very sorry she has taken such an ODD stance. Look, you cannot do a thing. Point blank, you have done more than enought o attempt to explain, you've sent her texts and she has gotten this idea into her mind and after 4 months? It does not look like she's going to answer you.
Give it a total break ok? stop messaging her AT ALL. Seriously, don't send her a letter, no text, nothing. If she feels anything towards you? and you give this a break, it may start to grate on her and she may begin to wonder about you again. But if you keep on? You are allowing her to continue this mindset.
If you stop and remain silent, she may start to wonder about you. Leave well enough alone. You know the saying "least said, soonest mended". And look, believe me, if she is the right one for you? She will come back your way again. If she's not, there is someone else out there.
If you have a belief in God, say a prayer to Him about it and leave it in His hands and do not worry. I do believe she has had a bad experience in the past and she will really need time and to be left to herself. If you can show you don't need to text her anymore, maybe she'll reconsider her judgement on you.
Take care and let things lie.
2006-12-24 05:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by Gus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would your employer send her flowers & a poem? Regardless, I don't think there's much you can do. If she thinks you're obsessed and you keep calling, you're just proving her right. It was sort of a simple misunderstanding and you already explained it to her and she still thinks you're crazy so the more you try to show her you're not crazy, the more she think you are. That make sense? Honestly, it sounds like she's taking something small and making a big deal out of it just so she doesn't have to talk to you anymore. You can't make someone like you so unless you want to really become a stalker, give it up.
2006-12-24 05:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should leave her a message telling her the truth and say that u were set up in a good way but u didn't know what to think of it since u weren't the one that gave her the gifts. so that's why u stood her up. JUST TELL THE TRUTH SHE'LL UNDERSTAND....HOPEFULLY. but this should be ur last message to her cuz u sounded desperate when u said u text and call her constantly.
2006-12-24 05:34:46 · answer #4 · answered by sprungroll<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop showing interest altogether. If she likes you she will try to make the first move. Otherwise move on. She is not the only girl in the world.
2006-12-24 05:30:19 · answer #5 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well............honey ur in deep love wd ths girl......but i dnt understood one thng...y is she angry wd u?
i mean is ds the reason that somebody else gave her flowers n card n not u n that u dnt told her ths thng dat time....
if yes,then she's being stupid by not responding to u
its not a very big issue....
i thnk u must try n meet her n talk to her face to face but keep trying until u dont succeed
even if u dont succeed atlest a feeling of looser shud not prevail in ur heart n mind...
take care
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2006-12-24 05:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by sweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats the point in trying to win a girl that doesnt like/want you. there would never be anything there
2006-12-24 05:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by jmsbaum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paranoia is a sign of dementia. You need a shrink.
2006-12-24 05:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by Hotwad 980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes probably not getting your messages for some reason,Maybe your wife got her messages to you and called her back!!!!
2006-12-24 05:29:11 · answer #9 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move forward move on keep going
2006-12-24 05:27:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋