There's this guy I know. We've only talked once and he seems like a really cool guy. Everyone says he's gay, but mostly all the guys. None of the guys really like him, but from what I'VE seen he seems pretty cool. I've been told he's conceited and mess of other things, but i don't think so? If he is gay, then that would explain why he's conceited (no offense). But it's weird because he's so hott, & every girl wants him. I feel pretty shity though because I should have never gone by what everyone told me. But then... one of my friends told me he turned to look at me one day, and he smiled, but let it go when he realized I didn't see him. Another time i was with another friend and he was telling me, "yea, he's gay, he even called himself one!" and when i was telling him about this one time we walked together, he was trying to interupt me, when during our whole conversation he never once did. Does anyone have an idea? Without me being too direct?!
2006-12-23 21:17:06 · 23 answers · asked by noches de leons 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Regardless of whether he's gay, or he has gay tendencies, or he's just confused, stick around. He seems like a nice guy and it does seem he's interested in you on some level. Forget about the gossip about him, just take him as you find him and accept him for how he is around you and for him as a person!
He may not even know himself how he feels, some people do go through some VERY confusing stages, so I wouldn't keep on about the gay thing, neither behind his back or to his face. He maybe fond of you and that's a good thing isn't it?
The best thing you can do, is accept him as he is as a person and enjoy his company when you can. Don't let anybody dictate to you what he is or how he is, or what his sexuality is etc.
2006-12-23 21:26:26 · answer #1 · answered by Gus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would start by being direct with him, and there are ways to do this without being brutal with him. Just go into the conversation with an open mind, and a fresh perspective. It will help matters a lot if you seperate what the peanut gallery is saying about him. In my experience listening to what people say has not always turned up fruitful in any outcome. So just be yourself, and you may want to can the stereotypes like the all gay men somehow are conceited. I am a gay man, and since I am answering your question I don't see how conceited fits in. This is a great example of being direct I may have taken offense to what you have said, but I was in no way brutal with you just assertive. Keep that in mind when talking to this guy, but you realize you will have to be the one to talk to him. To be perfectly honest I am getting the impression that you too are shy, but that is really neither her nor there because you have made this your issue. So your options at this point is to sit and do nothing, or do something. What have you got to lose?
2006-12-24 05:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by foxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might be gay and needs a good woman too change that. don't insult him though.you cant believe people first of all. people will say anything about you,or anyone they choose.and it cant be stopped remember gossip is the devils tool.maybe he's in college? maybe he's trying too find him self, before he finds love ? just because every girl wants him doesn't mean he wants every girl.that doesn't make him gay, he may unlike a whole lot of people have morals and not sleep around.think about it.......
2006-12-24 05:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His personel life is none of your business if you have only talked once. If you like him... (kinda sounds like your attracted) then just slow down... the truth will come out in time....whether he is gay, interested in you or not interested in you... alll you can do is be the best person you can be. If your worried about wasting your time.. then your more worried about your own feelings and not his best interests as a friend.
2006-12-24 05:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you know that gay men get the best along with woman? They understand women better that other men? because in their relationship one partner is dominant (male) and the other is submissive (female). your friend could very well be a gay. but keep heart you will find some one else.
2006-12-24 05:36:02 · answer #5 · answered by urfriendfrlife 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start by being friends. Get to know him slowly. He's probably trying to work you out bit by bit too. Don't listen to your male 'friends' on this as they will give the same answer nomatter who you ask about; everyone's gay except me!
2006-12-24 05:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by Bart S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know, thats a bit confusing. he might be gay though. I have the same problem, i've had a crushon a gay guy before, and usually when I thinks omeone might be gay, they end up being gay!!!
hopefully he's not right? or maybe that could explain why girls want him (because they cant have him!), gay guys are hot!
2006-12-24 05:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he might possibly be gay. maybe he isnt exactly comfortable saying it to you yet? many gay guys are conceited. and many very attractive, you'd be surprised. does he lean more to the feminine side? or maybe he could be bisexual. he could be completely straight. you never know these days. but you wont know unless you have a straight discussion with him.
2006-12-24 05:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by blob888 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, is either he is 2 shy 4his own good or he's bi-sexual best thing 2 do is just ask him(dont b 2 blunt) or strike up a (dont seem 2 imposing) conversation & see how that goes and observe his actions
2006-12-24 05:30:54 · answer #9 · answered by 6figurenigger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask the guy out and if he says yes then he's not gay.
2006-12-24 05:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by Pache 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋