what can you do about temper tantrums?

Question

son is 2 years and a few months,has had almost zero discipline, is there anything we can do about his outburts, and also to start showing him some discipline?

Answer 1

you will probably laugh at this but it really did work with my lad.....reverse psychology......
my son used to bang his head on the floor or wall etc when he had a tantrum, it was awful, i was so scared hed seriously injure himself, well one day he was about to tantrum, so i shouted....go on bang your head, bang it, go on...bang your head then see if i care....(id had enough lol)
well he looked at me shocked and shouted noooo
so i said, bang your head, go on....he started crying and said no again, it worked!!!
thats all i had to do as soon as he started to tantrum, after a few weeks he stopped completely.
i think with a 2 year old for discipline, shouting (not tooo loud) is good as it shocks them without smacking them and hurting them.
good luck hun, merry christmas.

Answer 2

pretty much the same thing the last person said! When my son (23 months old) throws a tantrum, I first tell him no, in a firm voice. I count to three, and give him a chance to stop what hes doing. If he doesnt stop, I walk over to him, and remove him from the situation (for example.. he loves to come over to the computer and pound on the keyboard.. so I will take him away from the computer) If he throws a fit about me making him move, I make him go on time out. Sometimes it takes 30 minutes for him to complete a 2 minute time out... because he will run away, or kick and scream... but once he gets the idea, he stops the bad behavior. We actually havent had any naughty incidents in two weeks! heres hoping christmas doesnt spoil him!

Answer 3

Consistency is key. Use "time-outs" or "thinking time" for them to gather themselves...it's not about punishing them but recognizing when the need to take a minute or two to calm down. Tantrums happen with 2 years old but with "almost zero discipline" I bet they are major. It doesn't just work but being consistent with the time-outs or thinking time will work after a little while and it will be difficult but it's worth it. My son is almost 3 and we started actively with time-outs about a two months ago and he is starting to get the picture. We usually say "time-out" and sometimes he fights it and then we say "go to bed" and he opts for the time outs. When we had to resort to go to bed, we left him in his room for a minute or two and went back and asked him if he was going to "listen now", "eat dinner", "play nicely", etc and he did. Our son has some sensory processing problems and is very hard to manage and we have found that being consistent is the only way to keep him happy and in check. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

redirect his outbursts. When he starts to throw a tantrum try to get him focused on something else. At 2 years old they can't fully grasp the concept of disipline, they don't have the reasoning skills or ability to control their actions like we do yet. I also learned with my daughter that every six months in their devolpment their brain makes a switch and for 6 months they can be so good then they turn into the tantrum child that is hard to deal with. I learned this at my daughtres first preschool, we had to voluteer there and sit and listen to a parent educator (Whom I didn't like because she stated her ideas for child rearing as the only way to do it, each child is different and they need to be reared in their own ways) Oh and if your child ever has a problem with swearing, it is best to redirect and ignore the language and then figure out where he learned it and don't say it again.

Answer 5

I accidentally discovered an outrageous solution. My son was about 18-19 months old. No tantrums. My parents were with me and my child at WalMart. You know how grandparents are - they are always criticizing your parenting techniques. At the check out line, my son threw a fit that could be heard throughout the store. He was throwing himself to the floor, screaming bloody murder, flailing his arms and legs. I was so embarrassed I wanted to vanish. And I just knew I would hear some criticism from Mother and Daddy. As the cashier gave me my change, I looked at my parents and said to them "I wonder whose little boy that is". M&D caught on real quick and we started to leave. When he saw us ignoring him and walking out the door (of course I would not have left him), he jumped up, shut up, and ran to me. That was his first and last outburst in public.

In private, I would make him go to his room. In there he was allowed to scream and yell and flail all he wanted. I let him do it. But for some odd reason, he didn't get the enjoyment of private mayhem that he did when I was in the room. This period did not last too long. Good Luck to you and him...

Answer 6

You know you should have begun the discipline by now! and, too, that if you don't catch it NOW, you will have a monster o your hands. If he's in the middle of a full blown tantrum, let it play itself out. when he has exhausted himself, hug him tightly and talk soothingly to him until he has calmed down enough to really listen. DO NOT YELL and watch super nanny monday nights @ 9 pm EST.

Answer 7

i have the same issue. get down to his level, warn him that if he acts out again, you'll punish him (time out, alone time on the couch, no blues clues or whatever). if he does it again, follow through with the punishment. if its timeout, do it for 2 minutes, make him apologize, and give him a hug. he'll eventually get it...he'll have boundaries but know you love him. be consistent!!! do not give in, at all or else he'll know that he can always get what he wants, and you definitely don't want that. hope this helped!

Answer 8

he is having outburst b/c he has no discipline.

let tantrums run their course, but be firm and consisteny.

when and why does he cry???

Answer 9

ignor them the more you pay attentions to them the he will do them