I have been loving someone for about 10 months. He is a DJ in a club where I always go and see him. But we are strangers, and he knows that I love him. In my defense, he likes it when I go the where he works. I heard that he recently got married, but I still love and I can't stop myself. I don't know why but he has something special in him some kind of charismatic thing... I'm so strongly attracted to him, this time I came up with the idea to tell him that I will always love him on a cardboard like in a movie. What do u think, will it make him happy, do u think he will like it?
2006-12-23 18:51:25 · 17 answers · asked by Butterfly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men like it when women are too busy being honest to play stupid little love games. If you love him, tell him.
2006-12-23 18:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by your_name_here 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you are infatuated with this guy. Of course he has a "charismatic thing" He's a DJ in a club so he has lots of people looking at him all the time he's the center of attention.
You sound as if you have gone over scenarios of what will happen in your mind 100 times "cardboard like in a movie" this just goes to reinforce the infatuation you always what what you can't have. Remember he's married so even if he said he liked you you've got the wife to compete with and 9 out of 10 times he'll go back to his wife, so you'll left picking up the pieces.
At best you'll be the mistress and if you are happy with second best then go for it. From my experience and believe me I've been there try to find someone that single who will love you for you.
2006-12-24 03:04:51 · answer #2 · answered by 247 SEB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice.
MOVE ON.
I know that might hurt a lot, but girl, if he's married, and happy with his life, don't intervene, he may find it amusing that you're so attracted to him, but i doubt its anything more then that..
Don't let men play with your emotions, if you're going to love someone with all your heart, love someone who'll apreciate it to the fullest extent.Besides, you can't be in love with a stranger, you may be obsessed, may have this huge crush on him, however love on the otherhand is something more complex.It comes from familiarity, you get used to a persons good and bad sides, you accept everything about them, you know everything about them, and you love them for who they are, no matter what they are.
There are a million guys out there, and i suggest you drop this one, consider him a friend and go hunting for someone who'll love you back equally.
Hearing "i love you" from a woman, depends on the man whether he likes it or not, if hes a shy guy, and cant express himself right, he'd be relieved if not glad that you confessed first.If he's a guy who believes you and him are not in a very serious relationship, he'd feel embarassed, a little uncomfortable or possibly find it quite amusing.
And dear, it doesn't matter who says "i love you " first,
it matters only if you're saying it to the right person, and if you really really mean it.
Tell me how it goes if you wish, you can always send me an email.
Rave
2006-12-24 02:59:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just based on the first part of your question, sure it lets them know where they stand. It might make some uncomfortable if they are not ready to reciprocate or if it seems to be moving to fast, but honesty is the best policy otherwise you could end up both beating around the bush until it is to late.
Now as to the rest of what you have said, It is too late.
2006-12-24 02:58:11 · answer #4 · answered by Zarathustra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a newlywed he would be flattered to hear you say you loved him (male ego) if hes been married awhile you might get lucky and hell have an affair with you,no matter what it is really nice to hear this kind of thing from a girl as long as they aren't hurt from the whole situation. good luck.
2006-12-24 03:06:03 · answer #5 · answered by digger227 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are delusional and easily charmed, and watch too much tv and movies. When you said you want to write it on a piece of cardboard, i then knew that you are nuts.
You shouldnt date anyone for a very long time.
2006-12-24 03:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT TELL HIM YOU LOVE HIM.
You have not even dated him, or had any real interaction with him. He is married.
You have a crush, nothing more.
Move on and start dating others, soon the feeling you have for him will fade.
2006-12-24 02:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥ Nikki ♥♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him, let him go; he's married. Love puts the other person's happiness first.
2006-12-24 02:55:08 · answer #8 · answered by lone wolf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men usually run at those words but he is very off limits now.
Do be sleeping with another woman's man. You wouldn't want that done to you so do it to her.
2006-12-24 02:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by Stephie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that is what will make you at ease try telling him but be prepared for alot of unexpected things ,like he might take of very fast , or admit he had the same feeling , or use u, and stuff like that .
2006-12-24 02:56:20 · answer #10 · answered by msee mzii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋