I am 19 and the guy that I like is 28. I've liked him for about a year now and ever since I met him there has been some tension between us. Both of us have dated other people in the time that we have known each other because we both tend to indicate that the age difference is too big for us. I am always concerned about what people would think of me for dating someone nine years older, and also what people would think of him. (I don't want them to think he is a creepy guy or anything). Recently, the tension has escalated a lot. He became jealous of one of my guy friends who is my age and has been inquiring as to whether or not we are dating, etc. He's also been bringing up ex-girlfriends of his at random times. I just don't know what to do.
2006-12-23 18:47:11 · 20 answers · asked by jdrum311 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I should also mention that he is one of my drum instructors, but not for a school or anything, just a private instructor. But, I have gotten to know him pretty well because I 'interned' with him for about 4 and a half months. But we have a friendly relationship (for example: I go to his band's shows, etc)
2006-12-23 18:49:50 · update #1
when one is in love age shouldn't matter. The heart matters,so follow your heart with this one is my advice.
2006-12-23 18:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by chuck h 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I mean age difference is taken very seriously here due too laws and strict cultural beliefs. My opinion is that if you're 16, 17, or 18 and they are more than 4 years older than you then it's a no-no. If you're 14 stick with someone that's 14 or 15. Because 14 year olds aren't really that mature yet, and it seems a little young too be dating. Of course some people are still immature no matter what their age is. I wouldn't risk dating someone over 18 because that could get you in trouble with the law. I believe it's okay dating someone over that age, if you're parents know that person very well and they are okay with you two dating. Age is difficult too understand when in a relationship. If they are older they might want to live life and all that. I hope I helped! Good luck! (:
2016-05-23 03:26:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking a guy of that age, which I am, goes out with girls your age if they are emotionally immature and cant deal with women their own age. I tend to see the only appealing things about women your age is, well you will look younger obviously, but you are also naive to what goes on in relationships. Since he is jealous of you already and you have nothing, I would guess he is one of these guys, especially bringing up exes.
So, yeah some people will think he is a cradle robber, but if you are incredibly, and I mean incredibly, mature for you age and he is not immature, then why not, but from what you gave he doesnt sound so much like he is mature enough...
2006-12-23 18:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, the age difference isn't too big, under normal circumstances, but.......... you two have a problem with it and that is enough to end the relationship.
You can't change the age thing and it seems to be a subject of disagreement. Given the fact you two have a lot of tension that you yourself say is escalating, it sounds like its time to think about moving on.
If he is asking about one of your guy friends, he must be thinking long and hard about the age thing as well.
I'd say move on and find someone your own age. Like I say, the age difference doesn't matter normally, but in this case, it doesn't sound like saving it would be worth the effort.
2006-12-23 18:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by Gnome 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to date a man 8 years older than me for 3 years! So no, I am not saying the relationship is bad, but what I am saying is that be aware of his jealousy! He is showing signs of it right now, please don't it is cute! There are probably more signs of his potentionaly being controlling and maybe even abusive. Most guys do date younger women due to a maturity issue, but others don't. Look at your relationship and be the judge!
2006-12-23 19:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by L. Ann G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys only have a compatability of a 5 between a 1-10. So you both can do better.
2006-12-23 18:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by ∂ίятУ ℓάυиḋгÿ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was 49 years old to my 24. He was the love of my life, and the best person that I think I've ever met. When its the right person, age shouldn't be a factor.
2006-12-23 18:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by wahkea 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Right now you may think it's too big of an age difference, but in about 3 years it won't be a big deal at all.
2006-12-23 19:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I think 9 years is not too much. And if yes, don't care about other people. Do what you both think is right. Be happy.
2006-12-23 19:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I are about the same age difference. Only I was 31 and she 22 when we met. Don't worry what others think. Do what's right for yourselves.
2006-12-23 18:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by HomeSweetSiliconValley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally,i don't think the age difference is important in love. but concerning ya guy,sounds like he doesn't really care about what u feel as he's been bringing up his ex-gfs...after all the details you've indicated,what are you waiting for to forget him??!
2006-12-23 19:09:40 · answer #11 · answered by axL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋