For ligament reasons that I wont go into, I have reasons to be angry toward my dad. I've been going to a therapist for a while whose been helping me deal. I use to keep all my anger bottled up. However lately I've let it out. Not that I yell or get psychical. However when he does or says something that makes me angry I will say things to purposely make him angry. I wont get to see my therapist for a while so I was wondering if anyone else has experienced this? Making him angry give me a sort of power trip. However I don't feel any angry toward anyone else. I don't try to make anyone else mad. So is this healthy? If so why? If not what do you suggest?
2006-12-23 18:36:04 · 9 answers · asked by Gypsy Cat 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well, it's a lot healthier than keeping it bottled up!
It depends on what you're saying to him to make him mad. Is it based on truth? If so, there is nothing wrong with it.
Speaking your mind is a good thing.
2006-12-23 18:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by Zombie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a son that does the same thing. He also is letting his feelings out instead of holding them in. I found out that he was keeping it bottled inside of himself because it was out of respect. When he was in grade school and came home with a paper that was marked a B by the teacher, it made him very proud, and should have. Some students in his class received a lower grade. I told him that if he studied harder, he would have received a better grade. He took that remark as thinking I was not happy with the grade. I didn't know that he studied his hardest and could only do so much. I responded without thinking about what I was saying to him. This made him feel like a failure, and gave him a complex too. Now he is older and still thinks that I'm going to be disappointed in him if he doesn't please me. This is false. Now we talk things out and I ask him things. We try very hard to not upset each other and we get along . If I'm wrong he tells me and if he's wrong I tell him. We love each other and are trying to have the relationship that we should have had when he was younger. It's never too late.
2006-12-23 19:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this: what does it achieve, really. You are not angry towards other people so it is just your Dad. if you keep this up the time will come that you get those feelings long after he is dead and he will rule you from the grave. I let my mother do that. Stupid. But you still have a chance to talk with your Dad. Maybe it is not all his fault either. If you can't get anywhere then try to remove yourself from the cause of your anger. But having said that, you can't run away from yourself. Better to talk things over even if you only agree to disagree. At least you will understand. Things like this are not easy to forget or to forgive. But there is no need to dwell on it for the rest of your life.
2006-12-23 18:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am curious as to your age...if this is a teen thing it could be a normal phase...
regardless, it helps to keep some things in perspective:
1. the time and energy you spend trying to make him mad is a waste and results in more negative consequences for you... remember if you were angry at sometime he said or did you already put yourswlf through some distress; if you then try to cause him anger you are putting yourself through more distress...
2. remember when he says or does something and you start to feel angry that the thing he is saying or doing is all about him...anger is your choice, you could simply not choose it...it is hard to remember that in the moment, however it seriously takes away a lot of your life's stress every time you can remember that...
I hope you resolve this..amd I wish you the best with it...
2006-12-23 18:58:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, Trust me, karma is a B!t@h. Its good to talk things through, but purposely hurting someone will come back to you 3-fold. Plus, honor thy mother/father is a commandant. Try to exercise, take a walk, close your eyes and count to ten. Just be careful what you dish out. Try to talk to your dad and tell him whats wrong instead of being a smart-azz. Good Luck :)
2006-12-23 18:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just think you have alot of resentment towards him and you are just now getting the nerve to say stuff.
Dads are just down right mean some times and it will do some good to be on the other side. Believe me, when they know you don't care anymore and they know you are pissed. They will do anything to kiss you bumbum to make it right. They don't like to be the victim.
2006-12-23 18:47:28 · answer #6 · answered by Stephie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All it is, is him making you angry so you think you should get back at him. So you just do it the easiest way you know how.
2006-12-23 18:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by silentevil92684 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep going your way.U have your reasons to be mad with your dad.If this helps you and declares you.Why are u so concerned whether you are bad to someone else?You and your psychiatrist know more than us!!!I think tht it's healthy to express your feelings and not tht healthy to repress them.
2006-12-24 10:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-28 06:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋