Hi i got this girl pregnant on a one night stand. I didnt want a baby and she didnt tell me she was pregnant and just cam around 2 years later with my baby. And now she tryin to kill my bank account. I dont wanna do this. U think its right that girls trap men like this. I think i should of had a choice in the matter.
2006-12-23 18:10:01 · 31 answers · asked by silent_engage 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You had sex with her and got her pregnant. Sex leads to kids why do you think it was invented? Now...I am 110% Pro-Life, but this society is RIDICULOUS because if the girl wanted to she could have killed the kid. According to that reasoning you should be able to say that you dont want it, it should have been aborted, and not pay a dime. Women are the only ones who get to be pro-choice. In fact I bet that 90% of these fools on here who are telling you that its your fault would say that the girl has the right to deny the kid and have an abortion, since it wasnt in your body for 9 months you get stuck for 18+ years.
2006-12-23 21:04:59 · answer #1 · answered by Tim H 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it is wrong if a woman does try to trap a man by getting pregnant. But however why is it it took her two years to get back up with you? If she was after you or money she would have told you right away when she found out she was pregnant and been getting child support from you from the last 2 years.
Have you had a DNA test done? If so and the baby is yours then you do need to pay child support and have something to do with your own kid. Do you want that kid to hate you later on or wonder why "daddy" was never there?
It takes a man to be a father so if you are not willing to do that then sign your rights over.
Remember she did not get pregnant on her own and you should have used a condom even if she said she was on birth control.
2006-12-24 03:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off do you know its yours? Make sure to get a paternity test. Secondly, you made the choice to have the baby when you had sex with her. Sadly, as a man you have no obligations to her or the baby. If you did not sign a birth certificate, you need less than a lawyer, you need guts to tell her you don't want the baby in your life. She should have not trapped you, your right. Stop being upset about "not having a choice in the matter" whats done is done....it would be better for her to go find another mans bank account, and a good father for the child than a guy who doesn't want that responsability. Don't panic, you aren't married, and since you were not informed about the child for 2 years, no judge is going to hold you responsible.
Good luck.
2006-12-24 02:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by Starr 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Assuming that you are the father and have asked for a DNA test that came back positive. Complaining about this is not going to help. I am sure she didnt want to spend a year of her life pregnant and the rest of her young life with a child but she had some moral issues on abortion. She chose a route that you might not have agreed to, but its still your responsibility and your child. You had no right to ask her to kill the baby that you BOTH conceived. You may feel financially trapped but the truth is she has that baby for the next 18 years and will have to raise it. You got off easy.
2006-12-24 02:17:09 · answer #4 · answered by fancyname 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, get a DNA test done.
Second, if the baby is yours, step up and be a man....at least pay your child support. But, if you are that immature, then you should sign over your parental rights, that way, somebody else can have the opprotunity to be a daddy to a baby that definately deserves to be treated better than what I believe you are implying by saying you should have had a choice in the matter.
And lastly, get to the local clinic and get tested....its idiots like you that causes the disease epidimics...seriously, if you guys didnt use protection with each other...what are the chances that you use protection with other people??
2006-12-24 03:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by onearkansasmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of choice did you want? To be able to tell her to have an abortion? I don't think so. If she wanted to keep the baby, that is her choice. I'm sorry, but if you have a one night stand, then you need to be ready to pay the consequences. You had bad judgement and now you need to stand up and do what is right. She should have told you about the baby, but perhaps she knew you would not want it and she was going to try to make it on her own? Maybe she was trying to do the right thing by you and leave you out of it. However, babies are very expensive and maybe she just could not do it on her own and decided to make you do your part. No matter if she "trapped" you on purpose or it was an accident on her side, too, you need to step up and start paying child support. The child did not ask to be born or to have you for a dad, so he/she should not have to suffer because you had a night of poor judgement.
2006-12-24 02:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by bashnick 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
are you sure that baby is yours? if she had a one night stand with you, then she could have had one with another person too. you should get a DNA test. and why did she wait two years to tell you?
and if you are absolutely sure this baby is yours, then you need to quit complaining and step up to the plate, be a man, and take care of your baby. it wasn't just her fault. she didn't really trap you, because you could have prevented the pregnancy by not sleeping with a girl you didn't even know. and you did have a choice in the matter.
not trying to be mean, just telling you the truth.
2006-12-24 02:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself have had an abortion because I wasn't ready for all that a baby brings... I hear all the time though that if I was ready for sex, I should have been ready for a baby... Yada Yada Yada... Well, there's little kids like the age of 10 having sex, does that mean they are ready to raise kids? NO! I think that you should have a choice, but at the same time she shouldn't be forced to have an abortion/adoption because you don't want a baby. Also, she shouldn't have to raise and support a child alone that the two of you created. It's a tough place to be, but maybe you should make better choices with who you sleep with... bring protection and make sure they're on birth control... I suggest talking with a lawyer, maybe you could figure something out. Good luck.
2006-12-24 02:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I hate men
My son was a one night stand and I was young and going to give him up for adoption not telling the father after all I couldn't go through with it and I couldn't find him until my son was 6 months old and he feels the same way as you pathetic really
How would you feel if your father wanted nothing to do with you and didnt want you to have a good life. I know I would hate him.
Well good luck. Next time you should think before having sex next time protection maybe its not only the womens responsibility.
2006-12-24 02:27:01 · answer #9 · answered by goodmommy22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude u should have thought about that before you had sex. No form of birth control is 100% effective so congrats dad!. if you didn't want to be a parent then you shouldn't have been having sex but since that child has the misfortune of having you for a sperm donor you now have to step up to the plate and be an adult and support your child. even if you dint want to be involved in your child's life you need to help support it financially, She didn't trap you you got yourself into this with thinking with the 'head' between your legs not the one on your shoulders.
2006-12-24 02:46:49 · answer #10 · answered by llllll_amanda_lllllll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋